How many kids?

Question

To all married couples:

What is the maximum number of kids you would like to have after mariage? Did you ever make a mistake and bear more? What precautions did you take after that?

Answer 1

My husband and I would love to have 2 children (ideally). Twins run on both sides of both of our families, so that might have a bearing on our decision to "go another round". Ultimately we know that we want a family size that is manageable.

Answer 2

5

Answer 3

Maximum number depends on each individual couple. I had two a boy and then a girl. My thought at the time was what more is there more boys and girls. I have one of each and I need to to provide for them. So I had my tubes tied. I was 29 at the time. unfortunately we can not see the future. Seven years later I got divorced and re-married. I now wish I could have at least one child with my now husband. I know I could go back and have surgery again, but there is only a slight chance it would work. But if you know for sure that you don't want any more children no matter what surgical prevention is the way to go. Because you don't have to worry about birth control any more

Answer 4

I have reflected on this after much heartache (divorce(98), dating, remarriage (05)). I am 43 and had 3 children. This is my advice to young men: 1) Dont have more than 2 kids 2) get a prenup that is an agreement that there will be joint custody of the children if a divorce 3) Dont let her stop working. From a divorce side I spent 1.5 years and $20k just trying to get EQUAL custody of my children (mom didnt work for 9 years). I gave up after I ran out of money and found out that the Courts will favor the person that is most likely to end up on welfare; note I didnt say the mom but it seems that way. I came from a family of 6; my income was rising at a great rate and had some good savings before marriage. I can elaborate mroe on the bad but I have remarried and she had 3; think of french toast Sundays with 6? I am not going to say that I dont love each one of them and would turn them back in but it would be alot easiler if there were only 4 between the both of us (cars/houses get expensive after 7). Women get empowered by late 20's and 30's and if you are just focused on work (what we thought was important) then you can find yourself perplexed someday when the divorce summons is "dropped" on you. To view it all in a different light; if you had 2 kids (spaced 2 - 3 years apart so you get out of diapers sooner than 6 years) then you can send each one of them to better colleges, spend more time with them as they become teens; baseball,etc, and then make it easier to save for your retirement...why wouldnt you? My first 1 was planne, 2nd was accident and 3rd was by prayer; they are all different and I feel blessed to have them; just in hindsight 2 would have been easier on my heart.

Safety? V all the way!!! Besides they can reverse it most times (or take it from you) if you really, really, really want to do it all over again....

Answer 5

Well I wanted two, one girl and one boy.
I am not married, nor have I ever been, and I already have the one girl.
When I do get married I may still have two childeren with that woman.
But I don't want any more than three.
I'll more than likely get a vasectomy, or my wife can get her tubes tied, whatever we decide is best.

Though with my current GF our choice of birth control works really well, since she swallows. The mouth cannot get pregnant.

Answer 6

This question is tricky because I believe people have an "ideal number" of kids that they would like to have--However, once you have a kid or two I think you get a reality check and that number more often decreases than increases =0)

Answer 7

We have 5 children. My husband has 4 from a previous marriage and we have one together. I really wanted to have a baby, and we agreed that was the limit. I have an IUD and it works like a charm defending the fertile turtle! lol

Answer 8

for us it will be two. i am finishing school for my RN, and then i want to work for about a year before we try for another one! A lot of people i know want big families, but i prefer to have a small one we have a daughter right now, and the first six months was a nightmare for all involved! now she is perfectly healthy and i need some time before i can do it again!

Answer 9

I'm not married and I have no kids. But I thought I'd chime in here and say that if I were married, I'd like 4 kids. If I were going it alone, then only 1.

Answer 10

well i m married and planning for the 1st kid. will have 2 kids so that they r good companions of each other and a single one does not fell lonely . Till the time we dont want kids ...used condoms or good brand pills