I married my husband kind of quickly. We had a wonderful relationship for the most part. I honestly believe in my heart that I do love him. At the very beginning of the year I found out my ex was letting a girl move in with him and I broke down. I know he was doing it to move on from me. I went into a very depressive state. I went to seek counselling as to why I was reacting this way, my marriage fell apart...I am now back with my ex living with our two sons there, we have a good relationship, we really do. But I caused a lot of heartache for a lot of people. I don't know if I made the right decision, but my bed has been made. I still do love my husband, but there is not reconciling, the divorce is in the works. He tells me he still loves me and just wants for me to be happy...so did i do the right thing?
2007-02-22 03:59:32 · 14 answers · asked by boyssxymommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow sounds complicated but all i can give you is simple advice
Go with the heart wants.. the most..
Your torn i know but something will prevale
dont think logiclaly that never works
just go with it..
The heart wants what it wants
and yeah i think it's a good idea u did it cause u would have problably ended up cheating on ur husband
and i know you wouldn't have wanted to hurt him...
2007-02-22 04:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a good reason why you married. Is there no love for your husband? He is being an innocent victim here becasue you two made a serious commitment even though its a piece of paper. Vows are important. Talk to your husband, She what he feels towards you. If you were intereste din him romantically enough to get married then seek counseling. Best thing to do its decide whether you want to make your marriage work or give it up. If you end your marriage then AFTER THAT pursue your relationship with your ex or someone else. But do not cheat. Your husband deserves better than that, plus you do not want to give him a future complex because of your confusion. Honesty and communication is important..
2016-03-29 07:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop causing more heartache by being indecisive about the decisions you make.. You obviously did not really love your husband as much as you should have or you would not have left him for any one. Appears you have a hard time letting go of a relationship and tend to always look back and wonder. Time to put the past behind you and look towards the future. As you say, the damage has already been done. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 05:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth did you get divorced in the first place, if you had a wonderful relationship?
Also, did he formally file for divorce, or did you? If you started it, call your attorney and stop it.
Either way, pick up a copy of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. Read them. Mark a few specific places that you realize you need to improve. Then gift him with the books, telling him that you're going to make specific changes (he'll see them when he looks at the books). It might just save your marriage, and for the sake of your children, you should both be dedicated to saving it.
2007-02-22 04:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel you did the right thing then so be it . You may have hurt alot of people but you don't live your life for other people . If you are happy then be happy . Understand people go through ups and downs remember to always keep it alive . When it is getting boring or rough try and find ways to make it better . Keep your marriage alive and if you are with him find everything in your power to stop that divorce . GOOD LUCK !!!!!!
2007-02-22 04:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No use crying over spilled milk now. You two obviously got a divorce for a reason you have withheld. You are just feeling old feelings probably because of seeing him with another woman, but who is to say if you guys got back together-that the same thing (the reasons you got a divorce) wouldn't happen again?
Divorce is hard, honey, but move on. You'll be happier.
2007-02-22 04:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by AJM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you did cause a lot of people heartache. The fact that you had to seek counseling to understand your clueless behavior convinces me even more that you are inconsiderate.
You make a mockery of marriage, you fickle, indecisive...
SOME of us lay in the first bed we make you idiot...
Can't you see that your childish indecision needs to stop??!! Just stay with your ex already!! You have kids with this man? God, I feel sorry for them... and the men in your life.
2007-02-22 04:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other then why divorce? Work on your marriage, learn how to forgive and forget about others! Think about you and your family. Be happy! Good Luck! Don't let go of a good man there's not many out there.
2007-02-22 04:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by pink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were wrong to get married before you were over the relationship. You need to take time to yourself and clear up your emotions before making other commitments. Sounds like you let a good one go.
2007-02-22 04:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo. Fickle minded.
2007-02-22 04:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋