Okay i have been in a long term relationship for over a little over 6 yrs now.When i met my Bf it took him 3-4 months for him to convince me to go out with him(it was college).The first two years of our relationship were on and off.Finally our relationship became stable and has been pretty much ever since.Now have a 3 yrs old son together.I have to be honest we are opposites on a lot of issues he is more outgoing/i am shy only like to go out occasionally, I like things clean/ him not so much, I like to go out to fancy places/he would prefer not, he has more common sense/i am book smart,I like to read Best sellers/he rarley picks up a book,i am girlie with a tom boy side/ he's a mans man and i am driven about work/ he is easy going.Only similaritys we have are easy going personality's, love of cars, paintball, similar movies, and similar family values (our son).Do you think we stand a chance if we get married?I really do love him ?
2007-02-22 03:56:45 · 11 answers · asked by Leana D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The church we went to because we are thinking about getting married said we could not get married there since we failed the compatibility test!
2007-02-22 04:00:19 · update #1
Well sounds like your already married except for the piece of paper....Don't get me wrong, I believe in marriage and it really meaning something....just saying sounds like your already living that something. Find another church and Congrats.
2007-02-22 04:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your compatibility test is staying together for 6 years and still wanting to get married. Find a different church and go for it. If your differences are not a major issue in your relationship - then you're not "opposite", but you're in fact similar in how you can accept and get along with another person; which, come to think of it, is one of the main things for a successful relationship. Even a small difference in lifestyle or values can become a big problem if you're not willing to tolerate it - and a bigger difference will not be that noticeable if you embrace and accept it. Sounds like you two have done just that. Congrats.
2007-02-22 05:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you gonna let some dumb church compatibility test tell you how to live? What questions did it have?
Bottom line: You have a child together, you already know the differences and similarities, and you love him--sounds like you're a match made in heaven.
I know that little church test rattled you, but think about how many times religion has been wrong about things. The fact that the church determines who they will marry based on a compatibility test is frightening and sad. Pick a different church--or better yet, get married on a beach!
2007-02-22 04:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since when is it a churchs place to decide who is or is not compatible. You know the old saying, Opposites attract. If you love each other, then whats the problem. Marriage is a huge step and if you are questioning it before it happens and listening to other people, then yes it will fail, because the doubt is already in your mind. Listen to your heart instead. Its okay to be different thats what makes us special people. If you were both the same, you would get tired of each other and bored. Find things to do with compromise, marriage is a 50/50 partnership, it comes from both sides. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-22 04:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by boyssxymommy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all Christian denominations are against gay marriage. The United Church of Canada (United Church of Christ, in the States) has held commitment ceremonies before gay marriage was legal for years, and ordains gay clergy. That isn't what the Catholic Church teaches, so either this archbishop is incredibly liberal or what he said was misunderstood. The RC Church teaches that it is not a sin to be gay, but it is a sin to live a "gay lifestyle" and that the only true marriage is between a man and a woman. People are homophobic normally because they fear what they don't understand, out of ignorance, or out of being indoctrinated to think that way.
2016-05-23 23:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the test does indicate certain levels of facts but what really matters in relationship especially marriage is commitment or what so called "responsibility". telling you the facts is not to tarnish your morale in marrying the man but to enourage you to be more proactive in preventing marriage failure. if you're now at the crossroad, don't hestitate to make a move, no one can tell you on the wrong direction until you reach the destination. There is no loser but quit-er in all relationships.
2007-02-22 04:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by crystal ball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You baby isn't going to care if you failed some test. Get married and be a legitimate family if you share similar "family values".
2007-02-22 04:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and agree on how to raise your son, those seem like the most important issues to me. Everything else is hardly worth worrying about. And for a church to judge compatibility is absolutely ridiculous. Don't listen to that crap.
2007-02-22 04:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you kidding me!?!?!? did that pastor get test from myspace??!!?? go tell him that he is a joke!!! one of my friends took a test that told her if she and her BF were compatibale, is said they were, they got married, and 6 months later they got a devorce because he started beating her. go and find another church.
2007-02-24 13:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is another name of adjustments. One can never find a perfect match.
2007-02-22 04:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋