how hard is it to get custody back of a child. I am the mother.?

Question

my son is 12 years old and I can't afford a better lawyer than my husbands.

Answer 1

Given your recent questions, I think you should stop cheating on your estranged husband, get and keep a good job, take care of your potential STD and basically get your head, heart and finances straight before you take on the responsiblity of raising your child.

You may have birthed your child, but I don't know if you are qualified to be mother given your recent questions.

A child is not a toy you take out an play with, it's a person that you raise, teach good values and protect them from the many of the drama's adults can create until they are old enough to make solid decisions on their own.

Based on what you've been going through, I'm not certain you are a solid role model and the person who should be the primary influence in your child's life.

I hope you can become that person, for your sake and the sake of your child.

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Answer 2

Gee I guess it depends on the initial reasons of custody first and then if the situation has changed to benefit the child. As for the child's rights to love each parent equally have you thought about shared custody? Put the kids first because they are the only ones that going to make the final judgment because the courts and lawyers have no idea what is the "best interest of the child" really is and further more they don't care.

Answer 3

Well....thats a hard question to answer without more information.

Its not who has the better lawyer, its who was/is the better parent? When a women looses custody of her child, its sometimes very hard to get them back, because typically (or years ago) women just don't loose their children.

We live in a society that is harsh on women when they don't have custody of their children, and alot of people still remain biased over it. Its unfortunate, but its true. When the courts rule in favor of the man, which is becoming more common, it justs makes it entirely harder for the women to regain custody....later.

So...how long has the ex had custody of the 12 year old? And why does the ex have him? If its based on drug use or neglect or some other type abuse, you have a hard row to hoe to get him back.

Answer 4

Most of the time its really hard for the father to get custody. But I would think with the past history and the stability of your house hold that it would be a piece of cake. Was the child ever adopted by a step parent? If not then I think he should have full rights to her as he biological father, if she was adopted then it could cause problems unless the other parent was causing her ham too!

Answer 5

That depends on WHY the father was granted custody in the first place. The court grants custody based on the needs of the CHILD not the parents.

Answer 6

If the child is 12 years old then he can make up his own mind who he wants to live with. I live in Georgia and a child has to be 11 before they can decide who they want to live with.

Answer 7

My ex-wife tried to get our daughter back. Since I had lots of proof that she was a crackhead she didn't stand a snowballs chance in hell. Now my daughter is 15 and can decide who she wants to live with and she chooses the non druggie parent. In Wisconsin a 12 year old can choose the parent to live with unless one of them is a dirtbag.

Answer 8

I don't think, or it shouldn't matter, who has a better lawyer. It should come down to which household is better/ safer for the child.

Answer 9

attorneys do matter (to some extent), and pull fast ones. anyone who has been in court repeatedly or for years knows that.

do you have a female attorney, a well known one? have you tried your local Legal Aid Office?

your son is almost at an age where he can decide where to live; the problem is, kids dont like to admit they are wrong.

all you can do is provide proof that your child attends school every day, he resides in his school district, he has his eyes checked, teeth cleaned by dentist, have doctors notes for when he misses them, has a safe warm place to live with you, is in counseling (county offers free counseling) to make sure he is emotionally/mentally ok with the divorce, etc.

they will have to prove you are unfit in some way to take him from you. at that age though, his opiinion may be considered (where he wants to live).

if he is already with your ex, he needs to provide proof he is a good parent with a safe home. does he have a record of any sort?

get to know your custody laws in your state. LEARN 'EM ALL.

links; just click on your state.

YAHOO SUPPORT GROUP
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SingleMomsOnaMission/

DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
www.goodparentspay.com

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 10

U stand a much better chance.