i Know if i lost my wife i would proably lose my mind i have never been in love with someone really in love before i met her. we have had our share of ups and downs but after all that i could not imagine my self without her. Why do so many people give up on thier marriages when problems arise if they truly love that person.
2007-02-22 03:50:09 · 13 answers · asked by COLTS WILL WIN SUPERBOWL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would spend the rest of my days getting right with God and staying right with Him so that we would eventually be together again because the only way I would lose my soul mate is if God took him from me.
2007-02-26 12:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why I always say Divorce is even worse than Death. Let me Explain, with the death of a spouse you feel the pain and loss and grief, but its over, you suffer the pain of old memories, but time moves you on. With divorce , the loss, pain and grief are all there, but it doesn't end, it goes on , then you have to live with that person finding someone new , and seeing them but not being with them , the pain is horrible and ongoing. But again , time will move you on. As for why people truly in love give up, well sorry to say Love and compatibility are 2 different animals. and I hate people who say giving up on the marriage....a marriage can Die just like anything else and when people get divorced , they are not giving up or quitting , they are just accepting the death and moving on...
2007-02-22 12:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a darn good question. But take this perspective: we were all created as individuals. We all have are exits and entrances. I know you love your wife but you cannot practically kill yourself. Moving on with life is the only thing that can sustain yourself. Sure, keep her memory alive. But try to look sideways and see that life with all its cruelties gives you a lot to do. Be a shoulder for someone who has faced a similar trauma. Be strong. Read, seek knowledge, seek the real meaning of life. Trust me, in no time you will be better off and also your dead spouse would hate to see you suffer. Death is inevitable, learn to face it like all the challenges you have taught your mind to fight right from dawn to dusk, every single day of your life.
2007-02-22 12:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by maninspace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything ever happened to my husband, I would be devastated. I made a promise to myself that if anything like that ever happened I would raise our children and eventually move to Hawaii, which is a dream of ours. I would miss him more than I could imagine but celebrate every day with him in spirit because I know that he would always be with me.
People have a tendency to give up because they don't believe. They don't believe in love or in themselves, in what they have or how special it is. We live in a society that gives us the false reality that life should always be perfect and we should have everything we want when we want it; and that is quite opposite from the truth.
You have to work hard to get the things you want and they are rarely "perfect". Like you said, you and your wife have your ups and downs but you know that you love each other. When you love someone, you'll do anything for them and with them because the outcome for you is perfect...
2007-02-22 12:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was killed in a car accident, the only thing that kept me going was knowing that my children needed me. After almost a year of going through the motions of living, a friend who had also known my husband asked me a question that made me think. I was asked, "Would he have wanted me to continue to mourn him the rest of my life or to live and be happy with someone else?" Knowing that all he ever wanted was for me to be happy, I was able to return to living each day to the fullest and enjoying life again. Crawling into the grave with him would have been the last thing he would have wanted for me or I for him if I had been the one who died.
2007-02-22 11:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I lost my husband I felt like my life was over. He was my best friend. But at the age of 46 I knew that I couldn't stop living. At first I just took one day at a time because I knew he'd want me to go on. Sometimes I could hear him talking to me (I'm not crazy) telling me that things would be o.k. I have our memories. Remember we don't have a choice of what's to be. We just have to learn how to deal and keep living because our loved one would want us to go on and be happy.
2007-02-22 12:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they give up because they dont' know what real love is. and you know what when that does happen just remember you have yourself or maybe a child or older child and move on. you have to move on because the other person wouldn't want you doing that to yourself. its they are released and you should be also. you dont' have to find someone else just find crafts things to do there is so much in this world.
2007-02-26 21:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be difficult but I would go on. The world won't stop spinning so I would have to pick the pieces and go forward.
I think that my wife would want me to.
2007-02-22 11:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One moves on as the time passes.
2007-02-22 12:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened a few years ago in my case, it was rough and it took me til recently to get back into the dating scene. i don't wish that on anyone!
2007-02-22 11:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋