all day and does absolutely nothing. He even quit school. when ask to do something, anything he says he is too tired and feeling sick. If i make him do something and found out he was really sick then i would feel bad. I need some help here, any input at all. thank's..................
2007-02-22 03:47:59 · 21 answers · asked by skippol 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I think he's suffering from depression which also includes chronic fatigue or chronic fatigue with depression. One symptom may be more dominant than the other. He needs to go to a doctor, very few guys will go to a doctor especially for mental health reasons. I know a man who died because he wouldn't go to a doctor and I didn't go when I really should have. If your son had the flu and strep throat you wouldn't bother him and you would get him medicine. If you can't bring him to a doctor and don't let him go on his own because he'll lie about going or not show up, then call in a med visit. If he's not doing any thing including reading cutting the grass or talking to people then he has or probably suffering from mental illness.
2007-02-22 10:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 years old and have experienced the same situation. I felt tired all the time, never wanted to get up, went to bed around 8:00. I lived with this for years thinking that I was just lazy. I just recently found out that I have a vitamin B12 deficiency and have started injections. I feel great now. I had other symptoms that I didn't even realize were because of this deficiency. I had numbness in my fingers and toes, loss of short term memory (just little things), and sadness, like depression but not nearly as extreme. However, I did not stop going to school and working full time. There maybe some validity to a medical claim but he still needs to make an effort to live a normal life. If he tries and physically cannot then I would take him to a doctor. You need to stop enabling him. He needs to get a job. I am not saying you should kick him to the curb but if he is living in your house then he needs to be contributing.I hope this helps!!
2007-02-22 03:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your son has both! I have chronic fatigue, I am a single mom and work full time and go to school. I have to take medicine so I don't just fall asleep (I do not have narcolpsy). The medicine helps but it doesn't solve the problem. It just helps take the sleepiness away, but I still feel tired. If he isn't on medicine get him on some. Also you can take him to a sleep center who well evaluate his sleeping and tell you if he isn't getting enough oxygen at night or if is he falling too deep into a sleep when he sleeps that it is hard for him to feel refreshed in the morning.
He is going to have to do something about his life and if you don't pressure him even to help around the house then YOU are setting him up for failure. Just keep doing what your doing. He can move out then he will HAVE to deal with his problem to survive. Your really bending to far back for him. Don't feel guilty!
2007-02-22 03:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, take him to a doctor for a complete physical. If the results come back as healthy, then you have your answer. If he has a problem, then deal with it properly, and get him on the road to improving his health. This doesn't mean you should be lenient on him, He needs discipline and a firm control from a parent.
As a parent, you provide an example to his growth. When you allow him to be lazy, he will remain lazy as he grows into an adult. I'm shocked that you allowed him to quit school. No responsible parent would allow that. If he cannot handle school, then you need to make him get a job and pay the bills.
The bottom line is simple...you CONTRIBUTE to his laziness. He's playing you like a fiddle. The longer you allow it, the more you help contribute to his problem. Tough love is needed and you need to provide better parenting skills.
2007-02-22 03:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you are going to take him to the doctor to find out what is wrong with him, why he is so tired and sick. Then actually take him to the doctor. If he actually is sick, he should go anyway. Before I went to the doctor a few years ago, I was tired and sick all the time, I could not even sit up. Went to the doctor, found out I had diabetes, and was about 2 weeks away from hospitilization, or possibly death.
Of course, he could just be lazy... Only one way to find out for sure.
2007-02-22 03:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Goodkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 19:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time he leaves the nest. Once on his own, he'll have to get off his butt and live his life.
PS - I know people who always have a "tired/sick" situation. I don't know if it's laziness or not, but over the years they have accumulated a lot more excuses than results. What always goes through my head is "well, you know what I do when I feel tired? I get up and go to work and get things done anyway." Just a different temperament, I guess.
2007-02-22 03:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Steven D 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm 28 and 6'4 and work from all hours and stop to eat and go to the bathroom. I'm up from dark to dark everyday. It don't sound like fatigue to me, it just sounds like a good case of "lazy ***" I know because my brother-in-law has the same thing. The last thing I would do is feel bad if you ask him to do something. Hey, in the Marines, when we are asked to do something we do it weather we were fine or bleeding. Asking him to do something isn't going to hurt him. Once he knows how far he can go with it he will.
2007-02-22 04:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ringo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could he possibly be suffering from depression? Depression can seem to outsiders as laziness because you lose motivation and quit doing things that you were once able to do. You feel incompetent and the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness take over. I would suggest a psychological exam and have him evaluated.
2007-02-22 03:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have him take a complete physical examination by a specialist. If there is nothing wrong with him - then I would kick him up the butt and tell him to go get a job. The less you do the more tired you feel - it;'s called ennui or boredom.
2007-02-22 03:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋