Are you still freinds with your ex spouse?? We had no kids 2gehter so we had no reason to be tied togheter that way, but we started out as being good freinds as though nothing had happend, and alll of the sudden after months of this - i have not heard from him in like 2 or 3 months - do you think that it was a bad idea to remain freinds with him? I am afraid to call him cause if he has someone else, i dont really wanna know about it.
2007-02-22 03:47:09 · 12 answers · asked by lady26 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't say we were "friends". I don't like him so nope not friends, but we are cordial to one another when we speak on the phone or via email. I know many couples who have divorced who are still friends though. It depends on the people involved.
2007-02-22 06:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would completely depend on the reasons for the divorce. If the split was a mutual & amicable thing, then there is no reason not to remain friends - you can still be supportive of the other persons happiness and maintain your own happiness so long as your split was mutual. If it was so/so or not so agreeable - then the answer is NO - sorry, but as much as you may want to, your feelings are hurt and continuing to have a painful remind of love lost is no good. You need to focus on you and what will make you happy in your life, make 2 lists - needs & wants. THen plan a course of action that will get you all of it!
2007-02-22 04:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no longer in contact with my ex even though we have kids together We have 3 kids. He pays child support but does not see the children because of a alcohol problem and anger management issues. He will not get help therefore can't see the kids. It is tough on the kids but we make it through. If you can remain friends I say do it. But if he ignors you for 2 or three months it might be wise to cut all ties you don't deserve to be ignored. You were married to him at one time!
2007-02-22 03:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am still friends with my ex we were married for 12 years have 4 wonderful sons and 2 grandchildren he and his new wife stay here when they are in town so he can spend time with the kids he drives a truck so when hes home hes here for a week at a time i have been with my partner for 3 years and it is sort of strange to other people that we all get along so well but we do and for the kids its been a blessing they have so many people that love them and there is no fighting and bad mouthing we just decided 12 years ago when we divorced the kids deserved better then having us act like children its been the best for us all and i just wish all kids from divorced parents could have the support our kids did.
2007-02-22 04:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound as if you are not entirely over him. But chances are he may be involved with someone new. And a lot of women HATE the idea of their new BF still chatting with the ex-wife/GF(kids or not). Possibly he feels he cannot. But keeping your distance for some time may help this situation. Good chance that sooner or later, he will call to say Hi.
2007-02-22 14:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very good friends with my ex-wife. In fact I just got of the phone a few minutes ago with her.
It is really about emotional maturity. Most people can't handle the dynamics of dealing with an ex-lover let alone an ex-wife. It is usually harder for men. Rather we like to admit it of not we can be like territorial dogs.
The point is if you are truly over your marriage you have no problem seeing your ex-wife with a man because you are fine with that image in your own mind. If you can't deal with these thoughts and feeling then stay away until you can.
2007-02-22 04:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A freedom or a suitable is a state granted permission to do some thing interior a particular skill that they later set with lawsuits. it really is a comic book tale. All of politics is a comic book tale. Telling someone they're allowed to be loose isn't genuine freedom and is even worse being a finished perversion of what a suitable or freedom truly is.
2016-12-04 19:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually took mine back, but we've been together for approximately 25 years now, was married 12 of them, but, if it makes you happy to know about him, and you really want him to be happy, then yeah keep up with him, but if it hurts you to think he may have moved on, then your not truly over him yet it sounds like, but are you sure he is okay? Nothing happened to him? To me time well tell all, if it's meant to be that you two stay friends then it will happen. Friendship is a two way thing.
2007-02-22 03:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your shoes, I would put him and the relationship behind me and move on with my life. If you really were such good friends he would have stayed in touch with you. Since you're no longer together, he has probably found himself a significant other and is either ashamed to tell you for fear of hurting your feelings, or he just doesn't care. Either way, find yourself a new somebody and put him out of your mind, and enjoy your life. Good luck to you.
2007-02-22 03:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i am no longer friends with my ex, as he was not my friend, evidenced by his actions. it is always a bad idea to be friends or have anything to do with the ex, as it always seems to bring back old memories of better times. yes it is never right to have anything to do with an ex, as when they move on with another it will always hurt us. it would just have been better if the paths no longer cross at all unless its for some kind of real reconciliation.
2007-02-22 04:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋