Dumped you when he found out, told you to get an abortion, disappeared, - are you still planning on inviting him to be involved in the babys life once it gets here, or is it good riddance to him?
2007-02-22 03:43:40 · 22 answers · asked by lady26 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
A man that is not there during a woman's most vulnerable, most important time of her life should not be given a second chance. Move on--- he will get his instant karma seven times as bad. Respect yourself. Keep your head up and make your baby #1. Surround baby with lots of love and positivity. Believe me, once the baby is born, he'll start calling and wanting to be in his/her life. He wasn't there when you two needed him the most, sayonara baby.
2007-02-22 05:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting like a total jerk, then tell him good riddance. However, if you are financially strapped, put him up for child support. If not, then don't even involve him in your or the baby's life. If he decides to come around one day, then you two can deal with it when the time comes. If not, then you and your child are probably better off without him in yall's life.
2007-02-22 11:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good riddance to him...it's his loss. Why stress you and the baby with someone who could careless. There are better men out there who will love you and the baby and take care of all. My mother is living proof. She had 3 children with a dead beat dad. He was packing his clothes the day she had my little brother. Few months later she met my stepfather...he took us in and raised us as his own. Loved us more than any child could ask of a father. He died a few years ago and I miss him terribly. So, there is always hope for better things.
2007-02-22 11:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im in the exact situation. i am 34 weeks pregnant and i couldn't be happier keeping the baby when him AND his mother begged to get an abortion... But one thing i would never do is take a father out of a childs life. It may seem like a good thing right now, but later on in life that child is going to want to know where his/her real father is. Think if your mother took your father out of your life and you had no saying in it. You never know, the father could be an awesome dad and love him just as much as he should. You should atleast try to bring the father in his life. If the father isnt a good father and isn't going to be a positive influence on this child and what not, bring him to court and get FULL custody!!!
2007-02-22 12:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, yes, he is a jerk, but unfortunately he hasn't disappeared yet. He's the kind of jerk that sticks around to make your life just that much more miserable, instead of giving you the satisfaction of him leaving for good. He's the kind who likes to be involved only so much to be a nuisance, not to be involved in actually parenting or being responsible or having priorities. I've tried to say "good riddance", and have to a certain extent, yet he just lingers and lingers.
2007-02-22 12:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Riddance to bad rubbish! Oh and file a child support order and abandonment so you have full custody and he still is responsible for child support, have them draw the documents up that he has to send all correspondence to the attorney general.
2007-02-22 11:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he prefers not to be involved. I am personally torn on this because I think children have a right to be brought up by two parents, with the proviso "who love each other". Obviously, he only liked making love.
The marginal propensity that the biological father of your baby would play a positive role in your lives is slim to none with slim walking out the door.
Most of the women willing to go out with me already have children of their own, and while I would like to leave something of myself behind, I'm willing to do what it takes for those who need me.
Take care of your child. If you involve a man in its life, do your best to provide him the best male role model you can find. Its father seems to be the polar opposite of a good man.
2007-02-22 11:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say Good Riddance! I mean he wanted you to kill the baby... I'd pretty much say that right there is giving up his rights to be involved!
2007-02-22 11:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb. Get child support. If you have any voicemail messages or letters from him saying horrible things like that... keep them and take them to court.
Raise the baby by yourself in a loving and wanted environment or find a guy that love you and your baby.
The baby's dad can go to hell, you don't need that negativity
2007-02-22 11:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband left me, accusing me of it not being his (total crap), he says he wishes it not to be his. But he says other things like I love you, if this baby is mine we are going to stay together blah blah blah. Even after all that crap, I do want him to be involved in our childs life. But he has to be there for him completely. He cant come and go. Things might change once the baby comes. But I do want a father figure for my baby
2007-02-22 12:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋