I got engaged 6 months ago, and I was very close to my dad then, and now I feel that I am not close to him, even though he likes my future husband and all my family do, but for some reason I feel that my dad, mom, sister and brother are not close to me anymore, what should I do to get that feeling out, or it might be more than just feelings. It is a bad feeling because I still live with them until I get married which is by the end of the year. So please help or advice me what to do?
2007-02-22 03:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're in the process of breaking away and establishing your own family unit when you do marry. Of course the relationship with your parents and siblings is changing. It's a natural part of the process, and it's a good part as well. Once you're married, you should be closest to your hubby. Your relationship with him and your own children will be far closer than what you have with your parents and sibs. Relax, this is how it is supposed to work.
2007-02-22 03:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congrats on your engagement. Secondly, maybe they are jealous. Maybe they realize that you are going to move on. It is like an "empty nest" syndrome. They are so used to you being there now that they may think that you are being "taken away" from them. They may feel that once you are married that you are going to focus more on your marriage-which, once you get married, you both are going to-and that you won't have time for them at all. I think that is really sad. I hope that they realize that their little girl is grown up and about to be married and start a family on her own. I do not think that would be so bad. But, for your family to start feeling this way, it is just sad. If I was you, I would just continue to get ready to move out of the house, to get prepared to get married to my fiance' and to continue with your life. Always keep in touch with your family and let them know that you love them but you have to focus on being a wife-more importantly, being yourself.
I wish you luck.
2007-02-22 03:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have gotten very good advice it looks like... i would say talk to them and just try to clear the air... it could just simply be that they miss spending time with you... maybe try a family dinner... or sit down and play a game with them... also... if you think it could be that they are just upset that you have stopped spending as much time with them and more time with your future husband try to set up a family outing and incorporate your man into the activity... im sure your family will relax... hope all goes well... if you need any ideas or more help let me know... i hope i was helpful...
2007-02-22 04:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by jeans0079 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I know how ur feeling. I think you should just try spending time with them. Try to talk to your mom about this and tell her how you feel. Maybe they feel ever since he came along your changing and spending more time with him.
2007-02-22 03:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because in there minds there little girl isnt there little girl anymore,they are probably just going through some mental issues right now.
2007-02-22 03:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they done anything to make you feel this way? You should have a talk with them and let them know you feel this way.
2007-02-22 03:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they realize that they will be losing you, to your new life. Sometimes, it's hard to know that your children will have their own life and not be dependent on them. Talk to them about it.
2007-02-22 03:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit down with your famiily and talk to them and tell them how you feel about it
2007-02-22 03:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Justinee X3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋