have this guy..who flirts with me but he never really made an actual move, I know for a fact that he's an insecure guy.. there was one instance where he told me to call him if I ever wanted to hang out or go to a movie.. and there was another time where he asked me WHO I spent my holidays with, and on top of that he's always questioning me about how come I'm always leaving when he comes and talk to me... so I thought well he told me to call him if i ever wanted to hang out..so I made the first move and asked him to hang out.He told me that he would like to but it would have to be in a couple of weeks because he is broke....so I called him yesterday..and told him i was going to starbucks and if he wasn't busy after work, he could join, me he told me that starbucks sounds good, however today wouldn't be too good since he's busy, and that we would have to meet up sometime next week..then I asked him if he wasn't interested would he tell me? He said quote on quote "that we can meet up
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continues..." that if I wanna meet up sometimes we can" But he can't say that he is interested in meeting up as an ongoing thing" How would you interpret that...
2007-02-22 03:33:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He told me that he is shy when it comes to women because he has been rejected alot in the past...and that he chooses not to pursue women, but he didn't give ny explanation as to why he doesn't
2007-02-22 03:34:48 · update #1
Well.technically speaking he has asked me on a date..well not a date ..but he has offered that we work out together..and wants to see me play basketball..but then again he never followed through..
2007-02-22 03:52:16 · update #2
Not to keep rambling on...But when we did work out togethere a few weeks ago...he kept saying you don't have to be here if you don't want to" and I 'm thinking geez why would he think that...then while we were working out..he picked up my phone and looked at it before handing it too me...and told me who it was...now that was weird to me
2007-02-22 04:30:51 · update #3
Too much work! An insecure guy who can't overcome his past relationship mistakes, won't ask you out on a date, doesn't have any money, says he's too busy, and isn't interested means: LOSER! He's just not that into you- move on.
2007-02-22 03:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be scratching my head too..... It sounds like he likes being around you but when he's put on the spot to commit to doing something (even just coffee) he just can't go through with it. Think about it, why would a guy tell you to call him to hang out but then make multiple excuses as to why he can't if he was really interested?
If it were me, i'd move him to the "just friends" category and keep him there unless something changes. You don't need to go chasing after him just so he can string you along till whenever, doesn't mean you can't still be friends though.
Good Luck
2007-02-22 03:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand any kind of man that can't be a MAN and just flims-flams about like a lame wet noodle. No back-bone, no direction and this is someone you want to be your boyfriend?
Go out there and find yourself a real man, one that if interested, does not moan and whines and wimps about, a normal guy, when interested, moves it to the next level. Do not waste your time on losers like this, otherwise, in then years, you will still be waiting for him at Starbucks.
2007-02-22 03:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very interesting...
My honest opinion is that he not looking at you as a partner in life, but more as a friend. You can hang out, but it's not going to be serious.
It sucks that he has been leading you on this whole time, but a lot of guys don't even realize what they are doing.
2007-02-22 03:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to that last additional detail, it seems like he just wants to be friends. Even though he may like you a lot, since he talks to you all of the time, he may be afraid of you rejecting him. And in his mind he is thinking that "you're a cool person to hang out with, but since I don't want to be rejected then it would be best to stay friends."
2007-02-22 03:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by indiekidforlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to overcome is 'shy insecure' problems if he is going to have a relationship, and the is NOT your problem. You opened the door and made the invitation. I say its his loss if he is broke, shy, or busy. Move forward with someone else. You gave him the opportunity and chance.
2007-02-22 03:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing with you and disrespectful. He has bad issues of some sort. Give him the cold shoulder and find a nice guy who will meet your needs instead of trying to figure out what his wierd issues are.
2007-02-22 03:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by healing wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting up is not an on going thing tells you he is just interested in you as a friend and is telling you that is far it can go, he is being nice.
2007-02-22 03:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is too much work, forget him and move on. It seems like he just wants you to chase him so he can reject you and make himself feel like a big man. You don't need that, right?
2007-02-22 04:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he`s been rejected alot should tell you something. He has a complex, and shys away from social situations. ANXIETY????
2007-02-22 03:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋