Just before christmas last year my parents broke me and my long term boyfriend appart who is ten years older than me and for that reason stopped me seeing him despite countless efforts from him to still see me.I was sent away to live I went to hell and back over christmas my parents wouldnt speak to me, I drank a lot, was upset most of the time and missed him more than anything.Now Iv just started to get my life in order, Iv got a fantastic job, a new man, been accepted to a business managent course next year and sponsered by a local firm at only 20 Iv got a strange feeling that I may be pregnant. My stomach has really started to swell, I get heartburn all the time and seem to be upset all the time. My periods are coming as normal but lighter. Im to afraid to do a test. I cant go through everything I once did again. I think this might seriously finish me off.
2007-02-22 03:03:29 · 23 answers · asked by Helen J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like you are very stressed. Go to your doctor first!! Find out for sure if you are pregnant--if not, see what is wrong with you. I hope and pray that everything works out well for you!
Go to the doctor!! That's your first step!!
2007-02-22 03:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by lizzieboredom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest fear is that of the unknown honey.
First thing you NEED to do is to take a test and find out for certain if you are or not - lets face it all this worry could be for nothing after all! Clear Blue do a very reliable test that you can buy in most chemist shops, all you then need to do is follow the instructions and pee on the stick provided.
If you ARE pregnant then you do still have options open to you - you could choose to terminate the pregnancy, or keep the baby, or offer it up for adoption. - The earlier on you are in the pregnancy the more choices you will have so DO go and get a test as soon as you can, and find out one way or another. (if you are not far into the pregnancy then it can be possible to terminate just by taking tablets to make your body reject the fetus, so the sooner you do the test the better!).
It's very possible that you might not be pregnant, but that the stress you're under is causing you to feel very poorly - things like stomach ulcers etc. can make your tummy swell, and stress itself can make you feel upset all the time, and can cause your hormones to change meaning your periods are lighter or heavier than normal.
My advice, find out for certain, then deal with it one way or another... you'll find the strength to cope with what you need to I'm sure. It's strange, but not knowing makes everything seem MUCH worse very often. If you're not pregnant, then you'll still probably want to go see a doctor and get checked out.
Good luck with it all!
2007-02-22 03:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by purplerain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the test, it is the only way you will know for sure. You sound like you are very stressed, which can effect your hormones and cause lighter periods, so you may not be pregnant What do you mean you canot go through everything you once did? Is this new man anything like your old BF? Are you parents still not speaking to you? First of all congratulations on your management course etc. It seems like your world is turning upside down. Are you still drinking? If you are pregnant you must stop drinking to protect the baby that you are carrying. You noticed I said baby, not fetus. How far along do you think you are? If you are starting to show, you may be farther along then you think. I do not know if you have a relationship with God or not, but He will never leave you or forsake you. Hang in there- if you need to talk, please feel free to email me.
2007-02-22 03:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok first of all its understandable that u are worried but its very unlikely that u are pregnant b cos of the simple fact that u have ur period.as for the heartburn it cud be the foods that u are eating and the fact that u r upset all of the time mayb cud mean that even tho u r seeing another man the memory of ur old boyfriend who u obviviously loved very much is still with u even tho u may thing that u are over him.try to calm down,so the test with a best friend or sum one that u find will support u and if it cums out positive then u should realise that u r guna have a little buddle of joy that u can look after love.im sure that the love that u give this baby is also in a way constitute for the love that u have for ur old boyfriend there for making u forget about him.good luck.
2007-02-22 03:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just read your question and i really feel sorry for you. I am presuming that if you are pregnant you believe it's your ex's?
Firstly, you are going to have to do a test. Confide in a good friend - one who won't judge you and who is a good listener who you can pour your heart out to. Get her to stay with you when you do the test - you will benefit from the moral support.
Once you have the results you can either breath a huge sigh of relief (don't mean that in a bad way just cos you don't sound like you want it to be positive) or start making decisions. If it is positive book an appointment your local family planning centre if you don't want to go to your doctors - they can arrange counselling for you and it may help you come to a decision - whatever that may be.
Please, please talk to someone. You really will feel better xxxxxxxx
2007-02-22 03:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO the TEST asap. that'll clear you out. whether or not you do the test, if you are pregnant, that'll be the truth. You had the s_ _ happily and you'll have to face the consequences as well... don't be worry. What I feel is you are not pregnant. If you are having ur periods on time, chances are rare, right? the lighter thing might be due to your mental situation, i guess.
So very 1st thing is the test and the 2nd is meeting a counceller.
Every thing will be just fine... relax!!
take care
2007-02-22 04:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Clang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are having digestive problems which have probably been bought on by all the stress.
It is unlikely that your stomach would start to get bigger unless you were at least 4 months by which point you can usually feel the baby kick.
Heartburn can be caused by many things and is very common.
But if you want to put your mind at rest then you have to do a test. You will probably find it is negative and then you can start to get on with your new life without that nagging doubt in your mind.
2007-02-22 03:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes our body gets confused and deep down u might think your pregnant and will have signs that you are but it dosent mean u are
i know your life is getting back on track but having a baby isnt the end of the world i was a single parent at the aged of 16 im now 31 and have 5 kids i wouldnt swop it for the world
ur best of having a test even if its to set your mind at rest and most companys are really great with maternity leave and that
if you are pregnant u will have someone to care for and them care for you u will never be lonely again
a child is a gift
good luck xx
2007-02-22 03:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by duskess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to find out for sure is to take a pregnacy test...it wont hurt you to just take the test...Good Luck your 20 yrs old your not 12 or 13 your a adult now so dont be afraid!
2007-02-22 03:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by R.J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to test. I kow you are scared and I know this is hard...but you need to test so you can know for sure. Who knows? It may be negative and you will have worried for nothing! But if it is positive...try and stay calm. Get to a doctor ASAP and get your prenatal vitamins. This may not be the best time for you to be pregnant, but I guarantee that when you see your child's face for the very first time, everything will be fine. But just test and see and then go from there.
2007-02-22 03:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋