If your girl friend talked to other guys –including her abusive ex- online and told them she loves them and wants to marry them and had cyber sex (no cam) with them at the time you are planning marriage, wedding and all, and telling them same words we tell each other, is this cheating? Would you break up with her? She apologized and said it was a huge mistake and blamed her abusive relationship with her ex and the bad experience then she said no, it was not cheating and I should not have read her personal chat.
All opinions are appreciated and girls' opinions are very important.
2007-02-22 02:50:29 · 8 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She talked to many guys not only one and the one she had cyber sex with was married and she said if he had no wife things would have been different between them.
Later she apologized and said it's because of the long abuse she had to go through but of course later when things calmed down a little she said it's not cheating and reading her chats and emails were the unjustifiable mistake.
2007-02-22 03:17:09 · update #1
She's 33 and I'm 24.
2007-02-22 03:34:26 · update #2
Yes, it is consider cheating! I think you shouldn't even marry her because if she is doing this to you now, imagen what will happen after you guys get married. She shouldn't blamed her past relationship, but herself. I believe it doesn't matter how much trauma you had in your past relationships, if you love someone you wouldn't want to hurt them like they hurt you, think about this.!
Good Luck!
2007-02-22 03:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its still cheating, its obvious that she isnt ready to get married or mature enough to either. it sounds like she is only sorry that she got caught. i think its ridiculous that she uses her past abusive ex as an excuse, sounds like she has growing up to do. it might have been a good thing that you read her chats, cause it shows you what kind of person she can be, and now you know before you marry her or if you marry her. i would call off the wedding for now, and if you still want to be with her then you guys need to work on the relationship, the wedding needs to wait.
2007-02-22 11:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by TheSavant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres a womans opinion......RUN this girl has you asking this many questions and your not even married yet thats your brain trying to tell your body that your heart is in danger dont tie yourself to a drama queen unless thats how you want to spend your life sitting at a computer asking strangers for advise ....as for reading her personal chat hmmmm not a fan of that but wow did you ever find every reason in the world to move on
2007-02-22 11:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???? why do you even have to ask??? if she is about to marry you but said she wants to marry him then she obviously isn't taking your marriage serious and doesn't see it as permanent. Don't become another statistic...get rid of her
2007-02-22 11:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have heard this a million times from your friends and your BOSS...
dump the beeotch
she is a psycho
2007-02-23 11:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's cheating.
2007-02-22 11:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by M. Shaaban 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? This is hilarious! You should run... not walk - away from that girl.
2007-02-22 11:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Cdub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! She lies, she cheats, and she's just plain cuckcoo..
2007-02-22 18:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kakashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋