I've decided to get a divorce from my husband. Some days are so hard and painful....and I wonder if I've made the right decision. It's scary thinking about the future. He cheated on me and was abusive....so I wasn't happy with him. But sometimes I doubt myself...and worry that I won't ever find true love. Anyone else felt this way?
2007-02-22 02:46:05 · 15 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And we also have a child - so Im worried about how all this will affect him! And being a good provider for him on my own.
2007-02-22 03:03:50 · update #1
It's worth it
Yes, you can make it on your own
You deserve tobe happy
Yes. you will find someone else
I felt the same way, I was also afraid, but now I'm free and I am so empowered to have control of my life, to be happy, safe and free to do as a wish.
Good luck
2007-02-22 02:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has felt this way when going through a divorce. I know I did. I left my husband and I know now that I did the right thing. That was 6 years ago. You just have to keep reminding yourself of the reasons why you left and remember that if you went back now, nothing would change. You weren't happy and you took a stand and made a step towards a better life. Change is always hard. But be strong, you'll make it.
2007-02-22 10:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, pat yourself on the back for being strong enough to leave an abusive relationship.
Of course it is scary. Change usually is. But the alternative (staying with him) should be a lot scarier.
Don't doubt yourself. Be patient and don't settle. You will find your true love, it just might not be tomorrow.
Continue to be strong. You didn't come to this decision easily and the change won't be easy. But it'll be easier than staying with an abusive, cheating loser. You deserve better!
2007-02-22 11:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i was in an abusive relationship and he did leave me for the other woman, i had a very hard time but knew in my heart that divorce was the right path to take. when we have been abused for so long we don't think we can depend on ourselves to make any decisions, but if we never leave we will never know if we could find true love or not, and you don't have true love now, so what do u have too loose. personally he is a cheater, how could u take a cheater back and ever sleep with him again.
2007-02-22 10:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very natural but it takes time and time heals all wounds. I know this from experience. Some days I didnt think I would ever survive on my own and especially with my children. It gets easier as time goes on.. Meet some new people and that helps take your mind off of him. Make new friends instead of hanging out with the old ones that u both used to hang with. New environments make new memories and the older ones fade. Good Luck
2007-02-22 10:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by NYEVE43 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. you need to get rid of this man abusive and cheating,don't wast any more time with him you need to have a life too.the longer you stay with him you will be hurt so go start a new .you can do it.some day you will find someone who treats you the way you should be treated.i know its hard but you can do this,this guy is no good for you.i don't know if you have children but is no good for them.either.its more more scarier looking at your future of being with a abuser and cheater.i was where you are and wasted many yrs with someone .now i have someone new and he treats me like a queen.
2007-02-22 10:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by luv babygurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!!!!!! Get rid of him as soon as possible - yesterday would have been good. And it's normal to be a little afraid about the future. You can't KNOW what will come, but it will be better than what you have now. And take your time in getting used to being alone - not lonely - alone! It can open a whole lot of new insights - look forward to your future and kick his a**! Good luck to you!
2007-02-22 10:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dame D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is painful no matter the circumstances. It is normal to feel the things you feel.
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Once an abuser, always an abuser.
You are lucky to be alive! Never go back. Hold your head up. And please go to the Center for Battered Women in your area. They offer great free counseling. Good luck. Let me know how you are doing. Please!
2007-02-22 10:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok now is time to live for you. Don't think about being alone or any of that stuff. Think about your hopes & dreams. You are a Woman live life the way you dreamed of as a young girl. You don't need a man the only thing you need is confidence in yourself. Think big & make it happen.......
2007-02-22 10:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by miss_late_nite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and what you're feeling is normal. Give yourself some time to heal; you'll find that special someone that you can love and trust for a lifetime. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 10:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋