my ex and I dated for about 5 years and then we fell apart and I cheated, from that I found out that I was going to be a father, we brok up and she is now going to get married, but she dosent want to its a prearrainged marriage. She came to my house last week and we hung out and it was really special. Then she told me she loved me and that she didnt want to get married what should I do?
2007-02-22 02:37:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well for more information I do take care of my son, but me and his mother are not together and yes i do still love her, and also I did cheat and I do know why i cheated and would i do it again NO I have a better understanding of me as a person and what to give in a relationship
2007-02-22 03:04:43 · update #1
I'm not sure I understand your statement about being a father. Did you father a child with your ex or the woman you cheated with? Whatever you do, be a daddy to the child you fathered. If that means marrying your ex and spending time with the child, do it.
Next time, don't cheat! As you've learned, it's just not worth the pain.
2007-02-22 02:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing here. The ball's literally in her court. SHE'S the one who has to make the decision here. If she wants to go through with this marriage, you should honor that decision and leave her alone...aka MOVING ON. If she backs out of the relationship and wants to get back together with you, then that's another thing. However, on a personal note, I think she's nuts if she does that. You cheated on her once before, what assurance would she have that you wouldn't do it again? But leave a married person ALONE!!
2007-02-22 02:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you read your question through, you will realize that neither of you has the maturity to know what love is about. Love isn't games, or cheating, or getting somebody pregnant. I suggest you don't marry her until you learn to think with your mind instead of your heart. But if the baby's yours, DO take care of him/her.
2007-02-22 02:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on her!!! leave her be just tell her to not marry someone she is not happy with but ya know at the same time do the poor girl a favor and dont mess w/her heart, she needs to find someone else she'll love hopefully not u!!cheater!
2007-02-22 03:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by bebekaychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word is ex
and another key word is cheated
and there is pregnant
and pre-arranged
There is NOTHING in your note that suggests you should be together. This sounds a lot like someone who doesn't want the pre-arranged marriage and is looking for a way out.
Stay as far away from this as you can possibly stay.
2007-02-22 02:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only being human and expressing her feelings but you do not deserve her having cheated on her and on your way to be a father. Please let her get married to someone who loves her and will not cheat on her. Do not deceive her out of the marriage.
2007-02-22 02:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you love her? If u do then get back together with her. Take care of the baby and go get married to her. Tell her that its cool that she loves you and that maybe yall can still be friendz after the breakup
2007-02-22 02:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing u have left to do (BREAK UP THE WEDDING) start some drama show people that u care and u kno ur mistakes ..........wait thats only if u like her in return. if u dont still try to break up the wedding cuz u want whats right for her event tho u might not wanna go to far
2007-02-22 02:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a giant step backward. You have a problem already with one pregnancy, you don't need another with an "Ex". If she doesn't want to marry the dude, then let her get out of it, herself.
2007-02-22 02:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if she just has 'cold feet' and is afraid of this next step? I wouldn't get involved with her anymore but try to be a friend - that's what she needs now! And make sure she knows you'll only be a friend!
2007-02-22 02:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dame D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋