I think my fiance is doing and/or selling meth. We have no money, yet he makes about $25 an hour. With the little bit that I bring home from my part time job, that should be well enough to pay our bills. He lies about where he is going all the time. He also lies about who calls him. Last night he said his brother called, yet when I checked later (yes, frown, I have not trust left) it was not his brother he was talking to, it was a guy who I know is on meth. Anyways, I know there is something fishy going on, but what can I do? He denies that he has anything to do with it, but I know thats not true. Can I call a cop, or someone, and not get myself in trouble. I've known for a long time that something strange is going on, so will I get in any trouble with the law, too? I want to give the authorities all the phone numbers he calls, and that call him, and see what they can do. Will this be a stupid move? Has anyone been here before? Please be serious.
2007-02-22 02:23:19 · 13 answers · asked by ErinRae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your fiance has some real problems, to be blunt you deserve better than that for yourself. Get out now and save yourself a lot of future grief and heartache. Drugs, Cigarettes, Alcohol there all the same , the addict has to quit , and want to quit. Also , if your trust is gone , you really have nothing left anyway, once its gone , you never feel the same again. Move on for your own well being, it may hurt now , but you will be much happier down the road.
2007-02-22 02:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by EGOman 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I don't envy you one bit!
First of all, more than likely the reason he's lying to you is to keep you out of as much trouble as possible, plus the fact that he probably doesn't want to hurt you with news that he knows already will hurt you just a little more.
With him lying to you about where or who he's been with makes you the innocent one in this whole big messy situation.
Most guys wouldn't even take the time to make sure you weren't around.
I don't know that there is much you can do or say except excuse yourself from your current living situation & relationship.
Before you go any further or make any major decision, first find out as much as you can about meth, why people use just meth, the effects on persons using meth, a meth users mental stability while high. Find out everything first before you open your mouth. Just be prepared for backlash with this drug. If people find out (and Im speaking about the users of meth) if they find out its you, I wouldn't want to be around. I'd make yourself disappear.
Here are some pointers on what meth does to the human body:
Meth makes anyone on it paranoid after being up for 3, 4 or even 5 nights straight.
Meth makes the user hallucinate after a 3 to 5 day period of being awake.
Meth makes the user very mad, extremly quickly & usually with little provocation.
Meth makes the user want it again & again & again.
Imagine what it would feel like to starve every single day for the rest of your life & there is nothing you can do to stop it, except eat. Eventually if not properly taken care of you will die, just like meth users.
You have for the first time just experienced what its like to crave this stupid drug albeit we used food as an example.
Have you ever used meth? Have you seen how it changes your happy attitude into this nasty, mean & rude attitude?
Just be so careful in the way you chose to handle this.
Like I said in the beginning, I don't envy you one bit.
Good luck, & be careful,
Nicole
2007-02-22 03:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go down and talk with a local detective with your local police department. Explain the entire situation. I'm sure you aren't the first girlfriend who's boyfriend is dealing drugs. I don't know if you two have children together, but meth-heads are probably the LAST people I would want my son or daughter around. For your safety (and your children't safety if you have them) you need to get away from this guy. And afterwards let HIM prove to YOU that what he does is legit. Although it sounds to me that he might have a hard time doing it.
2007-02-22 02:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can give the information to the narcotics division of your local police or sheriff's department. You won't get into trouble if you give them the information. My concern is for your personal safety. You should leave your boyfriend if you think he's selling drugs, or using them, and denies having a problem. You can't help him if he won't admit he has a problem! Above all, do the right thing, and contact the authorities. Been there, and done that; no regrets!
2007-02-22 02:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The SMART thing to do here is get as far away from this mess as you can.The Cops already know whats going on,they are just waiting to make their move,don't get caught up in the Bust,you could go to JAIL.If you get out of there and cops ??? you can tell them you found out he was doing and selling and that you do not do drugs so you left him.The cops probably have been watching the traffic flow and your place sounds like it's on the list.Better get OUT while you can and GOOD LUCK......
2007-02-22 02:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.... My Ex is in prison right now for Meth. You may be his only chance at survival. You must talk with the local police & trust me it will be the hardest thing you will ever do , but if you Love this man you have to help him. Meth is a very dangerous place to be. Your BF will hate you for awhile, but after he gets clean he will thank you for helping him. I think you already knew the answer to your Question, follow your heart.......
2007-02-22 02:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by miss_late_nite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to move on. plain and simple. if you know whats going on, and do nothing, yes, you can be charged with an offense as well. is he worth it? don't you feel that you deserve better?don't become a statistic. turn him in and say so-long. you're a fool if you think you can change him. he has to do that himself.
you said you've had no trust for a long time. there's your answer. get the hell out.
2007-02-22 03:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just end the relationship, or u could find yourself in trouble too when he gets caught. u could tell on him, and the others, but it would just be best to move away from him and stay out of it, these druggies could come back on u and do something to u.
2007-02-22 02:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
any info given over to the cops would show that u are operating in good faith for justice. i know alot about addicts...........the first thing to do is get the heck outta there.........ask him to get help, if not, u might need to deny him contact with u.......... alot of times violence is right around the corner, and when an addict feels trapped, its extremely volatile. be careful.
2007-02-22 02:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whether you call the police or not is your choice to make. But I dont think you have anything to fear as far as legal problems for yourself. If he is dealing.... stopping him may be saving the life of one of his customers
2007-02-22 02:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋