ok so my ex fiance and i broke up last april, i actually broke it off with him because he was drinking too much and i didnt want to marry into something like that. anyway not too long after we broke up i started seeing an old boyfriend of mine again, we had dated on and off for 7 years, well i am five months pregnant by him now, but he is with someone else, we barley speak unless i have a doctors appointment or something. so my ex fiance (who i should mention i have a 17 month old son with) has been hanging out with me alot more and we are getting closer we talk alot and we have discussed [ast issues and things like that. what i am wondering is that should i feel weird becuase he wants to be with me knowing i am pregnant by someone else, he acts like he doesnt care he will rub my back and feet and my belly, the other day i mentioned that she(i am having a girl) is kicking and he put his hand on my belly to feel it. is this ok? i dont know if we are going to get back together? help!
2007-02-22 02:17:59 · 12 answers · asked by puppy love 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Has he quit drinking? That's my biggest concern. You had good reasons for not wanting to get married to him last year. It's okay that he cares for this new baby, even if it isn't his. Probably the reason for that is that he cares for you and baby comes with you. It sounds like you have your interests and you children's interests straightened out. There's no reason why you couldn't get back together with him. However, you might want to put some parameters on it. He has to attend AA meetings or something and he get's a trial period. If he falls back into his old ways, you have to let him know that it can't work. There's no reason that you should feel weird. you did get engaged to him for a reason right? Probably one of them was that he cared for you so much. Those reasons don't just disappear. Just don't jump into anything, you don't have to rush things.
2007-02-22 02:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when love is concerned people dont think about the obvious.
Yes you are pregnant by somebody else. but there is no hard feelinds there since you were not together when that conspired.
I will say that if you are enjoying his company and it is not hurting either of you than that is not a problem.. The baby inside of you is yours- Im sure he can see that... He is probably not laying claim on it as being the guy that is not with you...... If the two of you have a child then it would be awesome if thingsworked out and you ended up with the father of ur child.
I ammarried to my high school sweetie and we split up for two years after high school- I had a child in that time - since then we have married and had two of our own- he also has two from our two year split.. but we are together and have been for 8 years..... and things are hard for the oldest cuz he visits his father and has that other life.. but you cant change the past... if it means you will be happy then u move forward in what you know will make you happy
If he has changed and you love him and he you.... Then there is nothing wrong with him comforting you in your time of need. The baby will be his to raise if you end up together.. if not.. then really what is he doint there? Why is he touching you and spending that time.. realisisticly u need to talk to him and find out where his head and yours are...
no more playing grown ups gotta be serious cuz u have kids involved.... commit or quit is how I feel cuz the child you shareand the one you have inside you need stability
Good luck.. feel free to email me if you need to talk
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christal
2007-02-22 02:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Christal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if someone loves you that much (and if you love him) and you want to be together that's great. Some guys don't mind the whole baby thing. He should understand that he had a problem and this happened while you two were not together. Maybe this opened his eyes and he realized how much he cares for you and he'll do anything to show it, even not minding about the baby. Good luck.
2007-02-22 02:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me he may have realised what he lost and if he knows its another man's child and is still there for you and wants to help out, you'd be a fool to reject him if you feel the same. take it slowly and see how it goes the most important thing is the baby, dont let anyone do anything to you that may harm it, but in the meantime enjoy it, you may need his support sooner rather than later.
2007-02-22 02:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with each other? Truly? Can he love you and your daughter, even though he is not her father? Is her father going to be involved in her life? These are things you need to ask yourself and get honest answers. Go with what is best for your daughter. Sounds like she is being born into a soap opera (sorry!). Provide security and stability the best you can for your children.
2007-02-22 02:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get back with him sounds like he would be good for you and the kids.
he will give you the support you need during this time and he sounds like he wants to be there
My husband met me when i was pregnant with someone elses baby and he treats her great, just like his own
2007-02-22 02:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want custody problems, don't push it. The one you should go with is the one who loves you and your child. It sounds like he loves you for the person you are, and no you should not feel weird about that.
2007-02-22 03:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you have someone there giving you support. i think that's really great of him, even if you two aren't going to be more than friends. i can understand how you would feel weird, but just appreciate his friendship & support, esp since the baby's dad isn't giving you any.
2007-02-22 02:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so messed up.
I don't even know where to begin.
The only person who can tell you if he wants to get back with you is him.
And it doesn't seem weird that he doesn't mind...you clearly didn't care who the father was.
And if he's drinking, you don't need that around your baby.
2007-02-22 02:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋