I was pregnant with twins in the beginning and didn't know it until I lost one, i posted about that before, but now I have lost the second due to no fetal heartbeat at the dr. visit, now I am scheduled for a D&C next. how did any of you cope, and do they atleast give you a death certificate, when you lose the baby so far along, just trying to cope,
2007-02-22 02:11:27 · 9 answers · asked by PreciousMiracles01 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks everyone, for the comments, it is helping, I am not sure if I could even request the remains because I am getting a D&C but it won't hurt to ask. Thanks
2007-02-22 02:49:19 · update #1
Ok, the reason the opt for me to do a D&C because the baby stopped growing at 19wks. But thank you
2007-02-22 03:18:26 · update #2
I am sorry to hear that... My sister lost both of her twins at the same time around 22 weeks. Because neither of them was alive at the birth. She was not given a death certificate.. In order for a fetus to be considered a baby they have to take atleast one breath at the time of birth. I know it sounds stupid but this is what my sister was told... I personally believe that the baby is a baby at the time of conception.. Sorry about your lose......
2007-02-22 02:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost twin girls over 30 years ago. I was 6 months along. My first daughter passed away a little over an hour after birth with a collapsed lung. My second daughter passed away shortly after. It was devastating. I still think of them and feel sad. When I see twin girls I can't help but relive the trauma and wonder what mine would look like today. You never completely get over it. But, you do learn to cope. My girls were buried next to their grandma. I was given both a birth certificate and a death certificate. We have a Prayer Chapel in our home for all our lost loved ones who has passed before us. Each has a picture, a candle, and mementos. I also have the birth pictures of the girls, taken 15 minutes after birth, in the Chapel among the rest. This helps me a lot. I see them with family members and it is a constant reminder that I will see them again. Good Bless you dear. May our good Lord wrap His loving arms around you and hold you tight, giving you strength and comfort as He has done for me.
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My niece lost her daughter. Her baby was still born. She was not given a birth certificate nor a death certificate. She requested the body of her little girl. My niece chose to have her little girl cremated. She has the ashes in her Prayer Chapel. No picture (of course), but she has mementos of items that was for the baby had she lived. This helps her tremendously. I hope our example has been of some help and comfort for you.
2007-02-22 02:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister in law was pregnant about a year a go and also lose her baby she died 5 hours after she was born , at 24 weeks and they gave her the body and a death certificate
2007-02-22 02:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by bskylue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that...they would only issue a death certificate if the baby was born and lived outside the uterus. With a d&c they probably won't be able to give you the remains.
2007-02-22 03:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think they will give you a death certificate due to the baby not be born alive. according to the law you have a fetus not a human until it is born and takes it's first breath. I am sorry sorry to hear that. I think the law need to be change to state that it is a baby at conception.
2007-02-22 02:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by knc882007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. To answer your question, if the baby terminates in your body, you do not recieve a death certificate. If the baby dies after birth, you get one.
2007-02-22 02:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Vakari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that happened to you.
I hope you are coping well.
I don't think they issues death certificates to fetal deaths.
2007-02-22 02:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, the way I coped when my daughter died was I knew she was a designated angel for me and my other children. Maybe the reason you lost your children was that it would have been harder for them in the long run. My little girl died of heart problems but she could have had others. Trust and believe in God, for they are with them.
2007-02-22 02:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 21 weeks they should do labor and delivery. i lost one at 22 weeks due to preterm labor. they will give you a birth and death certificate.i have since lost my daughters but its better for me that their gone. grief counseling. look into it it helped me alot
2007-02-22 02:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋