Next week my 36 yr old daughter will have an operation. There is a 40% chance she will die. I will have to leave her to go and baby-sit her daughter ( my lovely grand-daughter). She knows I love her but what do I say about her little girl before I leave her in hospital.
2007-02-22 01:58:52 · 7 answers · asked by teacher groovyGRANNY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by being there and doing what you are/will do....by taking care of your grandchild, standing by your child in her time of trouble.... you ARE doing what you are meant to do as a parent....you are talking the talk and walking the walk....a lot of people today wouldn't do this....couldn't do this...
If words don't come to you when you are leaving your child....just smile at her and let your eyes do your talking for you...she's going to know what your heart is saying....touch her hand, give her some of your strength....say a prayer, if this is part of your lifestyle, or even if it isn't...Jehovah knows you, knows you both.
2007-02-22 02:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by necessat 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're forgetting about the part where there is a 60% chance that she will be okay. And personally, I'll take the 60% of the 40% any day of the week. What should you say to your daughter? Smile and tell her that everything is going to be absolutely fine. Even if you don't believe it. Be confident, be happy, and be positive. Tell her that you're ALL going to Disneyland as soon as she's well. Do whatever it takes to keep her spirits high! And for God's sakes whatever you do, don't cry, act like this is goodbye, or behave as if she's being loaded onto an exploding rocket scheduled to launch soon! Remember......60% chance that everything is going to be okay! THAT is what you focus on!
2007-02-22 02:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My heart reaches out to you. I am searching it for this answer. I'd tell her ordinary sweet little things I had planned to do with my granddaughter...like fingerpainting, or watching Barney, or going to the park...just so she can imagine you both settled and happy. I'd tell her how I remember the moment she was born and that it was the singular best moment of my life. Tell her what a wonderful mother she is and what a wonderful child she has raised. Tell her how happy you are to be a part of their lives. Tell her that every time you look into the little ones eyes you see her, smiling up at you again. Tell her you may have not been the perfect mother, but that she was your pefect child, the one you dreamed of and were given. Take her flowers, big bunches, and tell her you'll be holding her very heart in your hands during that surgery. Tell her Jesus loves her and not to worry. Everything happens according to His perfect plan for our lives. Tell her you would crawl through fire to love and protect both her and her daughter for the afternoon, while she recuperates, or for the rest of your life. Tell her she's still your baby, after all. I pray you can tell her all this again, after the fact, when the emergency is over, and she is recovering. God bless you all.
2007-02-22 02:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 19:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But there's a 60% chance she won't die! No matter what - you should tell her "I love you and I'll be taking good care of your daughter until you come home to pick her up!" It's ok to say that you are scared to your daughter and that you know she's scared, too. But you also have to convey a lot of strength and let her know she's strong too. Good luck to you & your daughter!
2007-02-22 02:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Shirley T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this is very difficult....I'm so sorry you are faced with this situation. I suppose all you can say is that you love her, you love your granddaughter and that everything will work out the way it is meant to. I believe that positive thoughts (and prayers, if that fits your beliefs) can help lead to positive outcomes.
2007-02-22 02:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by not yet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I love you" Just tell her how it is.
2007-02-22 02:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋