Just Curious....?

Question

My seven month old son was cicumcised yesterday and I was wondering...aside from caring for the wound and giving him the extra attention he obviously needs, whatelse should I do? Should I be spoiling him...I alo have a 20 month old daughter. I'm just wondering if I should be letting him cry homself to sleep as I do when he isn't sore and/or sick.

For YUMMYMOMMY... I learned my lesson frm my daugher, I never let her cry until shewas 13 months old, and I still regret it now. She has a hard time falling bak aslee after waking up at night...and needs to be comforted. If you don't allow your child to cry at all, they will never learn comfort themselves or to be independant. You do it your way, I'll do it mine... He is being spoiled, beieve me, but the boy has to sleep...he gets baby tylenol every four hours andis generally content, I don't think pain is the issue, I think it general dicomfort and tiredness given that the tylenol mkes him sleepy

I waited to have him circumcised because at his birt, I couldn't afford it...it costs between 400 and 500 dollars to have it done now since its elective. I will NOT apologize for having it done, my step son was done at 5, my twin god sons are being done at 6, and a friend of mine was done at 32. All because of stupid little things, like doctors not really knowin how to care fort and moms choosing to follow the doctors orders. I dont know why I bother to ask questions on here when all I get is negative people with close minds talking out their arses, from now on, I'll stick to answering

Must be rare considering i know of at least four people that have had to have it done at a late age...yes,...must be rare...look up the stats in canada, believe me, its notas rare as you seem to want to think!

Answer 1

I had my son circumcised at birth and maybe it was because he was just born but it didn't seem to bother him too much. I would probably give him a litte extra attention for a least a few days when he wakes up at night, just until the tenderness wears off.

My son is 6 months old and when he is sick or had his shots, I always try to give him some extra special attention, just to make him more comfortable until he feels better.

As for some of the responses on here quite frankly I am appalled. This site is here so parents can ask advice from other parents, and then when we do, we get attacked and told that we shouldn't ask parenting questions in the parenting section.
We aren't asking for judgment just for advice.

Answer 2

Why why why would you let him cry himself to sleep if he just got circumcised??? He is obviously in some serious pain, he got a significant piece of skin lopped off of his penis. I would care for him the same way as you would if he was sick or injured.

ETA. You were talking about the stats in canada. I really dont know WHAT stats you are referring to. The stats for 2006 in Canada was less than 10% circumcision. 90% YES 90% of boys in Canada are left intact. Have you ever seen pictures of a botched circumcision? Did you hear about the baby last week who died from being circumcised?

Answer 3

You are doing right by caring for his wound and giving him extra attention. You are not spoiling him by comforting him...not just now that he is in discomfort, but always.

The wound will heal soon. It usually takes 7 - 10 days.

As far as night time, pease don't let him cry himself to sleep. I would like to suggest your read this website: http://askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp

Good luck :-)

Answer 4

Geez man, not only did you remove a peice of your childs penis, but you let him cry himself to sleep on a regular basis........doesn't it bother you to let your child cry and you do nothing about it?

Sorry, I don't mean to rant and/or be rude, but you are really pressing my buttons with your mothering and I can't help but comment. Besides, this is a public board and you are asking complete strangers how to mother your child.....obviously you're not as confident with your choices as you may think.

KDB: You've got me all wrong. But thanks for trying :)


ETA*** You're right jennifer. You do your thing, I'll do mine. But keep in mind, if you're gonna post about such controversial issues then expect some other Mothers to disagree. If you're looking for one-sided opinions then you should find an even more mainstream/non-attachment parenting/cry-it-out/Dr.Spock type of forum. I have to add: doesn't the fact that circumcision is considered elective/cosmetic and costs so much tell you anything???? You're experiences are rare. I guess while I'm at it I should take my daughter in for a tubal-ligation so she won't get ovarian cancer.

Answer 5

I'm curious as to why you waited so long for circumcision...

Take care of his needs. He's uncomfortable and at this point you will not spoil him. He needs you right now.

Answer 6

I would comfort him if he needs it to go to sleep. I think your doing just fine. And some of the people on here need to realize what your asking and not judge you for circumcizing!!

Yeah it is a public board YummyMummy but I can tell, you don't like to be judged either from things I've read with your questions/answers, seems you like to attack.
There she goes again! If you can't handle it then don't come here!! Naw, I don't think I got it wrong,I can plainly see you attacking people!

Answer 7

Give him calpol or something to keep the pain away.

Sure give him extra cuddles and kisses. Play games with him, but don't forget his sister. Don't make her feel she is being left out. if you reward your son, you must reward her too.

Answer 8

Spoil him, coddle him, love him to pieces. Maybe even apologize for doing this to him in the first place.

Answer 9

"Spoiling" a child with too much affection is a myth. You cannot give a child too much love and affection. When they are tired of it they will push you away.

Answer 10

You should be taking care of his pain, changing his nappy VERY frequently, and spoiling him totally.