I am 17 weeks pregnant and showing. I am a senior at an all girls college and pregnancy from unwed mothers if frowned upon. My baby's father and I have been together since I was 15 and now I am 22. We are not married yet because both our parents still think we are too young to get married. I am trying to hide the pregnancy from faculty at my school for fear that they will make me drop my classes. I graduate at the end of may and I want to hide it until then. Can anyone give me any tips on clothing styles and what to wear to hide my pregnancy?
2007-02-22 01:55:04 · 17 answers · asked by Sally Sue 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First and foremost to the people who posted rude *** answers on here especially Fantasy.... she is not ashamed of her pregnancy you idiots. She just wants to graduate school without risking the possibility of expulsion in her LAST 2 1/2 months. So why would you Fantasy, you ghetto *** biatch tell her that you feel sorry for her baby? At least she is getting an education and making a life for her child. You do not know where she is from and you do not know the laws there. Some countries are not as liberal as the u.s.
To answer the question, when you graduate you will be approx. 26 weeks pregnant. There is no guarantee that you will be excessively large. I agree with whomever suggested baby doll shirts. You could also wear sweatshirts (I don't know how warm it will be there in May) or large T-shirts or Polos. When you walk carry your books in front of you as well.... or wear a windbreaker.
My best friend went her entire pregnancy and NO ONE knew about it except me. She was about as far along as you when we graduated high school.
Then after you get out of school, wear your belly proudly. You are an adult and this is your child. No one can tell you what to do. It is not your parents decision when you can wed. You have been with him for 7 years, that is no fling.
2007-02-22 02:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many shirts out there.. you can use the baby-doll style shirts.. they are tight under breast and flare out at the bottom. Target had some really cute ones yesterday. Sweat shirts work well too.. but the weather is warming up. But to be honest you will be about 30wks when you are graduating and it will be impossible to hide it. But if you are wanting to hide it til about March.. these shirts may help. I would try talking to the school counselor and let her know that you would like to finish out your semester and graduate without a problem and let her know how long you and your BF have been together and are planning to marry.. but it was after graduation and unfortunately got pregnant but do not want to let it interfere with your schooling. Let them know that you are very serious about your schooling and would like them to keep that in mind as well. You are 22 and this is your Senior year. I wish you Luck!! Congrats.. and you will make a great mother.. you are already proving that with completing school.
2007-02-22 02:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went to a jesuit college, which, as you may know, can be very strict and old fashioned. You shouldn't worry too much about what people will think of you. You are 22, an adult, and are in a loving relationship. The people who do not support you are not people you need in your life. The school cannot expel you for being pregnant. As with my college, the most they can do is make up an excuse and try to convince you to leave (ex. You can't possibly walk up and down those hills and stairs while you're pregnant. Wouldn't it be more convenient if you were at a college closer to home?). If you are truly uncomfortable and want to put your education on hold, you can talk to your dean about taking half the semester off and completing it the next year, which isn't a good option since you're so close to graduating. I would confide in a staff member such as a professor you trust or your dean and discuss what options you have. Schools are very understanding at times, and you'll be surprised at how supportive they can be.
2007-02-22 02:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by keonli 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow, until May? I dont know how you will be able to pull that one off. Is there any way to can take some of these classes online? Prepare yourself that they will probably find out. But, in the meantime just wear baggy clothes as long as you can. I hope you have plans for when the baby comes. You will need all the support and strength from everyone. I know it is frowned upon but I bet there is some kind of mentor there at the College you could trust and help you. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 02:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Layers can help hide it, as well as anything that takes focus away from your midsection. I don't know what the weather is like where you live, so I can't really give you specific examples. There will be no way to hide it until May, but you can hide it for at least another month. You are so close to graduation anyway that they won't make you drop your classes. If you are pressured by anyone, take it up with the dean or the highest level student advisor that you have.
2007-02-22 02:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Vakari 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually...you should have thought about school before you got preggo. And for that matter, in this day and age, how can they kick you out of school for not being married. i didn't know there was any law against it...You need to step up and tell your parents and do what you need to do. If that means going to another school then so be it. Just think about your child. You can't hide a preganacy. Believe me, I got preggo when I was 15 and I didn't tell my parents till i was 7.5 months. I didn't gain any weight and believe me, this is not normal. It probably won't happen with you. Your gonna show. You need to grow up and face facts.
2007-02-22 02:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, there is no way that you'll be able to hide it until May if you're already showing.
You're best bet is to go to your tutor or the head of your course and tell them the situation as soon as possible. Let them know that you're happy and that you want to continue with your studies as well. You're an adult and they can't kick you out for this.
Take care and good luck with it all!
Lx
2007-02-22 02:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country? If it is the US it does not matter what they think or want, if you wish to continue your education there they CANNOT force you to leave, if they try you can sue them. I'm not sure on laws in other countries though, you should to some checking. In the US that would be considered a form of discrimination and that is not allowed even within a private institution.
2007-02-22 02:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. There is NO way you can hide it until May.
2. They cannot make you drop your classes, if they do, that would be discrimination, a violation of human rights.
2007-02-22 04:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some baggy clothes. Its winter you can get away with wearing sweaters and baggy jogging pants. Wear big jackets and if anyone asks laugh and say you ate to much over the holidays and it caught up with you. Don't eat in front of others and say if you have morning sickness that you have the flu. Your lucky its not summer!!!! It would be harder to cover up.
2007-02-22 02:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Married and loving it!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋