I hate the fact that my childhood friends have grown up and moved on w/ their lives. Sometimes I'd like a simple phone call or quick email from them saying "hi".
I'm so alone.
2007-02-22 01:54:51 · 5 answers · asked by kimchee_boi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I try to call and email but I'll be lucky if I ever get a reply. Sometimes I think I'm becoming annoying so I stopped.
Oh yeah, if it helps I'm a 32 y/o male. These friends that I speak of are kids I grew up w/ in high school when I attended school overseas when my dad was still in the military.
2007-02-22 02:07:44 · update #1
Hi. Even though you may have been the best of friends in high school, often people change, their interests, their lives and their friends change. It's just a part of life. I actually only have one close friend from school that I have known since I was 13 that I keep in touch with today. I think my situation is pretty common because people grow and change, they get married, they have children, they move, they change jobs, etc. I would say at this point if they're not calling or emailing you, you need to let go of those old friendships. It's like when you're dating someone; would you stay in a relationship if the person you were dating never returned your calls? No, you'd probably dump them and move on in the dating pool to find someone who genuinely cared about you. Friendships are the same way. Unless you have an extremely deep connection and strong friendship with someone and the friendship is worth you doing the legwork to keep in touch with them (and I doubt you have deep connections with all of these people), it is just not worth you trying to hold onto these relationships any longer.
You say you're alone, so my guess is that you are unmarried and have no children or family of your own. Why don't you look around right where you are and try to make some new friends? Get involved in an activity that you enjoy, whether it's volunteering, a hobby, sports, a club for singles, anything that will get you in a position to meet new people. These are the kinds of people that will be on your level; will enjoy doing some of the same activities you like to do and will have the time and be willing to put in the effort to maintain a friendship. Please don't sit at home feeling lonely any longer; you can do something about this and will be much happier as a result. I guarantee if you go out and meet people, those old high school buddies will be far away in the back of your mind somewhere, because you'll be so busy with your new friends to even care. Good luck to you!
2007-02-22 02:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by TNTMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds trite, but it is true that to have a friend you must be a friend. I don't mean that sarcastically. Have you tried calling first? If so, and that hasn't worked try reaching out to someone new. Often lonely people find great comfort in volunteer/charity work. You can meet some wonderful people that way. Possibly you could mentor a young person in your neighborhood?? Do something with your church?? Good luck and God bless you.
2007-02-22 02:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by hbern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...I dont know how much you keep in touch with them..but if they've moved on with their lives..so should u. Create new beginings and friends--thats part of life. You might want to try calling them yourself or emailing them and see how things go from there...good luck.
2007-02-22 02:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Suni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're pretty lonely:( Well why dont u call or email them? Or go out and find other friends?
2007-02-22 01:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE THAT'S ALL YOU'VE KNOWN.
START CREATING NEW BEGININGS BY MEETING NEW PEOPLE.
2007-02-22 01:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by pepsicolastar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋