we have been together 3yrs he has never been unfaithful (says he doesn't believe in it is dad done it to his mum). only thing is he say he has never in his life and he thinks its shocking someone doing (like when some1 i knew done it he was appalled) but a couple of the guys he knows and is going with and they do it he doesn't seem to have a problem with that. I don't want every1 thinkn i'm a paranoid bunny boiler (if i was he wouldn't be go'n) but obviously have a couple of insecurities (past relationships fault) within my heart i know he would never do anything but somethings niggling me after some elses comment about when abroad i would never find out so it makes it different. I like to hear what you think maybe take this niggle away.
2007-02-22 01:30:58 · 13 answers · asked by curiouskel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi
Been there done that, my fella went away for practically a stag week lol. I was worrying like mad, the same thoughts were going through my head.
Firstly, if he loves you he wont do anything, I'm sure he wouldnt want to throw 3 years away so easily. If he was going to cheat he'd be doing it here too, let alone in another country.
Secondly, well done on not saying anything to him (being the bunny boiler) as it will just make him more mad and think well if she doesnt trust me, f**k it i'll do it anyway, or it will just make him upset with you, which you clearly dont want.
For the weekend he's away catch up with your girls, try and occupy your time and he'll be back before you know it. it's difficult but it's only a one off thing, please don't stress too much, you'll end up making yourself suffer unnecessarily.
I've also got the trust issue thing going on thanks to past relationships, it's difficult but use this as your opportunity to move on and mature as a person. Not everyone is out to break your heart, I promise. Been there done that, and the bf thinks i'm great and that its shown him i now have more trust in him. It made us stronger
2007-02-22 01:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure he wont cheat on you, you gotta let him go. I know how you feel, my hubby is going on a mates stag do abroad. Of course I feel insecure, but I know deep down he wouldn't do anything. I have told him how I feel and he assures he again I have nothing to worry about. At the end of the day you have so show trust towards each other, or else you wont get anywhere in your relationship. I wouldn't tell him not to go, it is his mate and if one of my mates couldn't go ca us their boyfriend told her so I would think that was stink. If you love someone let them free, I'm sure he will come back. He will miss you!
2007-02-22 01:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they will be doing during the stag weekend. If they will be playing golf during the day and bar hopping at night that's one thing. If they plan to go to strip clubs, get the groom laid, etc., then its something else. If your husband is committed and faithful and he shouldn't want to be part of the second type of stag weekend.
2007-02-22 01:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by krilleater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't cheat on stag weekends so don't worry, what's more worrying is how our lads are ruining the rep of brits in some of the most amazing cities in the world on stag nights.
2007-02-22 02:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Skippy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A question that many girls have ask themselves I'm sure... unfortunately, I don't have a good answer.
Maybe you should tell him that you are going on a girls holiday to Ibiza and see how he feels about that? If he can cope with the idea of you going away with the girls then you have to do the same for him.
2007-02-22 01:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him then it shouldn't be a problem. from what you say he seems very decent have you spoken to him about it? he obviously has values so i don't think you have anything to worry about. he loves you so why would he go out for burger when he has steak at home? (sounds cheesy that last bit but i'm sure you know what i mean)
2007-02-22 01:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were going to mess around, he doesn't need to go off on a weekend with the 'guys' to do it. Trust him to make appropriate choices, it isn't his fault that someone in your past has been unfaithful.
2007-02-22 01:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact you are asking this question proves you dont have 100% trust or confidance in your man.explain to him how you feel and let him make his own decission, lets hope he understands the way you think and chooses not to go ,showing that your relationship is more valuable than a stag party.
2007-02-22 02:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You listen too much to other people, not enough to him and ultimately if he wants to go away with his friends, it's his choice, there's no reason anyone shouldn't be able to.
2007-02-22 01:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Funky B Funky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys need to get away from everything...myself and a couple of friends every year head abroad and party hard for a weekend...sure it might involve lots of booze and strippers but no one does any relationship harm (unless you are against those things). The male reality right now is screwy so to blow off steam is important. let him be.
2007-02-22 01:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋