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And I can not see myself with anyone else.
How do I know for sure, once and for all he is the one I want to marry and have children with?

Obviously, marriage is scary. For one, I have never been married. So please no answers, "You will just know". There is no possible way of "just knowing".

2007-02-22 01:30:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

9 answers

How right you are! There's no way to "just know" because what initially attracts, often irritates later. However, you've been together six years so something is going right between you or one of you would have moved on long before now. Has he asked you to marry him? If not, is there a good reason why? Make sure he's not just "stuck" and satisfied with the way things are. You need to have a lot of open communication about what the two of you want for your future. Discuss your dreams, your hopes as well as the things you don't want for your future. See if you are on the same page. If so, you have a good chance of making marriage work. If not, you'd be wise to re-think this relationship, no matter how much you love him.

2007-02-22 01:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0 0

You don't just know!
You hope! That's what it's about. You have faith that your feelings for this man are real.

You pray on the matter. Even if you are not a really religious person, you need something to help you figure out how to make one of the most important decisions in your life! Praying is good!

Marriage is scary. But if it's what you really want, it can be real good - in so many ways too!

I've been married for a little over a year. And I wasn't sure how to tell if it was the right thing to do or what. It was scary trying to figure out what the heck you are doing. But I took a leap of faith and did it. I have no regrets thus far, and don't think I ever will.

Talk to him about it. See how he feels about marriage. Everything needs to be discussed. Kids, how to spend money, houses you like - don't like, even privacy matters and intimacy. Discuss EVERYTHING!!!

I hope this helped and wish ya the best!

2007-02-22 01:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 1 0

I don't believe in the concept of "the one". I am very much in love with my girlfriend, we have never fallen out over anything, we agree on just about everything, we talk about our future together - careers, children, houses, marriage etc. I know for sure that she is the one woman that I want to be with for the rest of my life and it takes a great deal of restraint not to just go out and buy an engagement ring (I want to wait until we've been together for at least two years - if for no other reason than it's nice to take time with things).

That said, I do not think that she is the ONLY woman that would be right for me, she is however the only one I know that is perfect for me and the only one I love - the only one I will ever love.

My point is, if you love this guy, you enjoy spending time with him, you feel that you could live with him and be happy raising a family with him, then that is all you need to know. You know you love him, so just answer a few questions for yourself as to how your futures together would work.

I hope this helps!

2007-02-22 01:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If you have ANY doubts, they are probably well founded. There absolutely is a way of "just knowing." Most succesful marriages will say they definitely "just knew."

To be more helpful, have you had specific discussions about things like how you would raise the children, how you would manage finances, how you would ike to reitre, what things you both really want to do before you die?

How's the sex? It WILL get worse over time, so it BETTER be amazingly awesome now.

2007-02-22 01:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Pardon me, but yes there is ( a way of "just knowing.") You feel it inside instinctively; you know its the right thing. (It happened to me.)
Marriage isn't scary at all with the right person; its a blast. Mine's going on 24 years; and we've never had a fight (believe it or not.)

2007-02-22 01:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

How do you feel about yourself when you're with him? Are there things about him you can't stand but tolerate because you love him? Are these things that you could live with forever? Does he build you up or tear you down when you express dreams of your own future? Will he buy you feminine hygiene stuff when you've run out? (lol- hey some guys won't!) Do you find your life is happier because of your relationship or does it drag you down? There are tons of questions you should be asking yourself to gauge this for yourself. No one can tell you how to tell...it's all about how YOU perceive your feelings and your relationship with him. Blessings...

2007-02-22 01:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

true, if someone "just knew" they wouldn't have to ask. Just look at logistics, how they are with kids and if they'd attend well to what people need and so on. You already love him of course, so that's a great sign in itself. So does he take care of his house well? Provide well? (has money lol) If you've been together six years I think that's a pretty good sign.

2007-02-22 01:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0 0

if you can't picture your world with out him, if you can't get your mind off of him, if you'd give your life for him----then you really love him and he is the one for you

ohhhh and as long as he treats you like the princess you are

2007-02-22 01:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Bailey 5 · 1 0

well that is a good thing well bye and take care with him o.kay

2007-02-22 01:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by barbie 1 · 0 0

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