Have you ever had a councilling session and if so what goes on?

Question

I'm just curious to know what goes on......how the councellor starts and just basically the normal run through. What do you get out of it apart from dragging up things from the past that upset you

Answer 1

yes I have (there's a surprise!!)...yep a lot of dragging up the past, I realised that it was all my parents fault, spent 3 days hating them...then got bored with feeling sorry for myself and got on with my life


it wasn't really their fault, its just councillors always want to know about your childhood...parents don't always get it right and it isn't easy being one...x

Answer 2

Not all counselors will delve into the past. It's really a matter of finding one that suits your needs. Some counselors specialize in working in the present and future; Existential, Person Centered, Reality and Behavior Therapy. When calling to make an appointment or upon first meeting the counselor ask them, "Which theoretical background do you come from?" Some might say, Eccentric which is a blend of many theories, or Didactic which is a blend of two theories, or one you have never heard of. If they can't answer that question don't waste your time there. However, they should give you simple and understandable answer. Feel free to ask them questions if you don't follow, they will not think you're silly for asking, all questions are reasonable and should be given consideration.

Usually, you enter counseling with an "Intake Interview" which gets an over all look at who you are as a person. When you get to actually see the counselor she or he would begin with introductions and probably ask something like, "What brings you here today?"

From there, the session will go which ever way you want it. You have to be aware of the actual field of study the counselor comes from... Psychologist - chances are will go more into your past, Psychiatrist - will give you medicine and listen to you for about 15 minutes, or Counselor will guide you to make your own decisions.

From the, American Counseling Association, ACA, Code of Ethics. "Counselors encourage client growth and development in ways that foster the interest and welfare of clients and promote formation of healthy relationships."

The American Psychological Associaiton, APA, probably has a similar saying as well.

I have not been in counseling on my own yet, though as a student in counseling I plan to try it out in the near future.

Good Luck! (Sorry for any misspellings... ran out of time!)

Answer 3

Yes, I had councilling for childhood abuse. You just talk about stuff & unravel it all - the councillor knows exactly what questions to ask you as they've probably seen & heard it all a thousand times before. Mine kept notes to help him build up the picture. People's problems aren't really all that different when it comes down to it, we all want to feel loved & secure. My head was a bit of a mess, but with help I managed to sort everything out & move on to better things. Sometimes you have to drag things up from the past so you can release them & become a "whole" person again.

Answer 4

I've been to a session with a psychologist for a phobia I have. He just asked a bunch of silly questions and then showed me a silly relaxation exercise!

Then I went for a session to another psychologist that also does hypnotism for the same phobia and she also asked a bunch of questions, showed me the same silly relaxation exercise, also showed me those pictures that's just a blop of paint and I had to tell her what I see! I thought it was hilarious! Then told me she can't hypnotise me because I'm pregnant! Oh, and by the way, "you'll enjoy playing house with the baby"!

A lot of money later, I still have my phobia (yay!) and they just didn't give me anything that helped! If I wanted to relax, I would have gotten a book to read!

Answer 5

It depends what the counselling is for. If it's bereavement counselling, that can be helpful in coming to terms with your loss. Marriage guidance counselling can also be helpful as long as the problems are not too deep, and if BOTH parties are willing to work through them. A lot of other counselling does, as you say, bring up things from the past, like opening up wounds. Some things are best left alone.

Answer 6

Yes,I used to work for Liverpool city council

Answer 7

i had one on line because i have something called m.e.cfs which is getting a bit better now (no thanks to them though lol) and for me it wasn't any good they talked to me and asked questions about how i was feeling and then they would suggest something that could help, (but all the suggestions wasn't things that could of helped lol) i just found the whole thing frustrating! in the end i gave up!

saying that another Friend had it and she found it cleared things up in her head a bit better

it all depends on what kind of person you are and weather it suits you.

Answer 8

Well at first you will go through your life at the moment and how you are feeling, behaving, interacting etc. You might get into the causes of the stuff, but if that is upsetting then they wont go there with you. You can just concentrate on how you are feeling now, and work on how to change that.