Recently, I read an article about a guy who was dating another guy, and was planning to have a sex change operation. But, I don't understand. If the guy had a sex change operation, wouldn't that make him a female, and thus, unattractive to his current partner?
***Disclaimer***I'm not prejudiced so please don't label me as a hater. My mom is bisexual for crying out loud. I'm just trying to get a better understanding of human sexuality.
2007-02-22 01:18:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That is actually a very good question. Having a sex change has nothing to do with who you are or are not attracted to, it has 100% to do with your inner sense of self and unhappiness with not only how your body is, but the way you are treated in society. I imagine that very often if a person in a gay relationship were to have a sex change the other partner would lose interest, unless they had bi or were really attracted to the person. It is very common, although it doesn't always happen, for a married man and woman to get a divorce when the male realizes that in order to be happy he has to do this. Once in a while the two have such a great relationship that it can withstand something such as this, but that is a rare and wonderous thing to have happen.
I don't think you are a bigot for asking this question, it is a good one that really doesn't get addressed often. If you have any more questions about this feel free to e-mail me.
2007-02-22 02:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by elvishbard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to remember that sexual orientation and gender identity are two very different issues. I could go on about how we disservice each community by confusing the two, but I'll spare you. Second, yes, after a sex change he probably would be unattractive to his gay male partner, but that hasn't stopped many people from transitioning. Also, couples have stayed together through this process before, so it's not guaranteed they'll break up. You usually see this with straight couples, but that doesn't mean the same principles don't apply.
2007-02-22 02:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by eschampion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably break up with them unless we were married or something (although in that case I'd probably already know they were transsexual). In fact I probably wouldn't date anyone whose gender identity is female in the first place, even if they're body is male. I mean nobody just decides to get a sex change, if they do it's because the gender they are on the inside is already the sex they're changing to. Alternatively, I'd be find dating a FTM transsexual, although I wouldn't want to have any sex until they transition.
2016-05-23 22:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many relationships that exist prior to SRS do in fact end after the surgery. The reasons for this are many and everyone who has gone through this knows that there is no one reason for the breakups. People who undergo SRS have done so to bring there outward physical appearance into closer alignment with their inner gender identity. They do this to bring a peace to their life that they can't find without undergoing the surgery. The truth is that if you asked a pre-op transsexual who was involved with a man if they were in a homosexual relationship the answer would be almost universally no, in spite of what you or others might think.
2007-02-22 01:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gender disorder isn't about sex, it's about how they feel they are.
Yes, 99% of transsexuals lose their partner. Suicide is much higher in transsexuals prior to transitioning. Being who they feel they are is much more important than sex or often life.
I had a girlfriend who transitioned into a guy. I loved her/him, so I stayed, but this is rare.
I've gotten to know a lot of transsexuals, most were straight prior to transition and became homosexual solely because of the process of changing gender.
2007-02-22 01:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I don't believe so. If the person really loved them, then they would be able to look past the outer appearance. But I could be just as wrong as the next guy about it.
OH, and my ma's bisexual too.
2007-02-22 04:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy was transgender and the other guy recognized this and they were both waiting for the sex change. That, or it's possible he thought he was gay, but then realized he was actually trangender.
2007-02-22 01:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is confusing! The answer that indicated it's about gender and not sex is correct. It's a result of gender disphoria (sorry I can't spell that and spell check won't help) disorder.
2007-02-22 01:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand and I wonder the same thing all the time. My good friend (lesbian) is now dating a female who is in the process of becoming a male. I don't get it either. If you want a male why not just go for the real thing??
2007-02-22 01:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by maybe 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe the gay guy loved this guys's personality, and didn't care what he looked like on the outside so he still continued dating him
2007-02-22 01:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋