How do you deal with infidelity?

Answer 1

I have been on both side of this one. Never thought I would be. I can tell you when it happens to You..find yourself wondering how in the world this happened to you!!....It is a very painful on either side. It starts a long process of peeling back the onion -so to speak, of how you got to that point. There are may factors to consider. It ruins trust. that is hard to repair. It can be done if both are ready to be honest and begin the work of repairing it. My first marriage did not survive because he cheated and could not ever really give her up...after 3 years of trying ...she got pregnant and i deceided I needed to move on....good luck!

Answer 2

If it is a relationship worth saving. Then you would stop feeling like it was you and stop takig it out on yourself. The time frame for which the pain lasts or the thoughts of it bothering you is unlimited. it can last for years and years. Its hard to get over what you dont know everything about. Before you can forgive you need to accept what happened. you hear it, you know it but you still don't want it to be. The feelings that you feel all need to be dealt with. Pain, hurt lonliness, abandonment, that you weren't enough, betrayal. you feel decieved lied to and the trust factor has been broken. all those feeling need to be dealt with. understanding is something you need to develop. After you can accept what happend than you can start sorting through your feelings and eventually forgive. The wounded cannot be pushed to "get over this" the wounds stay raw and hurt each and every day. they need support and love. Once they find out what they really want. whether to be revengful or have forgivness theyll figure it out. The pain felt in really indescribable and your whole world feels scrammbled. your confused and hurt. But once you stop blaming your self find out why it happened and accept it you can move on. with or without th eoerson who scared you

Answer 3

I couldn't deal with it. I would have to leave and not think about it. That isn't the way I am sure, but you asked how I would deal with it. I don't deal with issues that involve me getting hurt. I guess you can say I have put up a wall and refuse to get hurt anymore. That isn't the way to do it, so if you are going through this, you need to get professional help. Best of luck.

Answer 4

infidelity is a deeper problem then just sex in most cases but the trust is broken and the cheater put the health of their spouse on the line by exposing themselves to possible STDs.
My ex husband cheated, I tried for a year to forgive him or at best get past it, but all the counceling couldn't help me to trust him again and I finally divorced him. he didn't want the divoce but I just could live with someone I couldn't trust.

Answer 5

you never deal with it, u confront it, give ultimatums and if he still wants to be disloyal to u, u have to have enough self respect to leave the marriage. there is no way of dealing with it, as when your married u have every right to be in an exclusive relationship with the man who made a commitment with, if u can't do that u have no marriage anyway.

Answer 6

Depends on the situation, and how well the relationship was before the incident. If it is worth salvaging, then talk about the infidelity.

But Personally, since it has already happened to me, my *** would leave, and not look back.

Answer 7

Once I tried to forgive it and tried to go on with the relationship (5 years relationship) and after 2 weeks I couldn't go on anymore and left him (he cheated on me). I was glad I had tried to forgive but I know for sure that if my bf now would cheat on me I'd leave in the second! All my trust and passion had just disappeared...

Answer 8

if you are the infidel... quit doing that... dont ever do it again.

if they are the infidel, shun them like a bad amish teenager

Answer 9

I would not deal with it! The sea of love is to big to snag a dogfish! I would tell him to move on down the road.

Answer 10

First of all what was your feeling before it happened? Stick to the rule you believe in before it became personal.