does it work among teenagers....workplace...relationships...?
2007-02-22 01:01:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi!
No..not in every situation. As Dr. Covey has said..sometimes "No deal" is the best option for you in some cases. Buzz words aside...I think many people just pretend to care...pretend to want to work to make things better.
In the short term...they can fool some people. In the long-term, though...it falls apart quickly. There are no real deposits to the emotional bank account..only withdrawals. That does not work for very long...soon the person who is trying to help feels used and ends it.
It's a lot of work to fully realize the full potential of the (now) eight habits in our lives. It is worth it. I t is not easy...but the long-term benefits are worth it.
2007-02-22 01:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The so-called win-win negotiation of conflict method works in almost every kind of situation. The goal is to come up with a course of action that meets the needs of both parties. The procedure goes like this...
- Listen to the demands of the other person
- Ask what needs these demands address, "OK, you want the keys to the car tonight. Why? What will having the car do for you?"
- Listen to clarify your understanding of the need, "I need to meet my friends at the stadium for the championship game. I promised them I'd be there."
- Express your need, why you expressed your conflicting demand. "I said no when you asked because I need to pick up your uncle at the airport, and his flight has been delayed."
- Involve the other person in a discussion to brainstorm ways to satisfy both needs. "What are some ways we can get you to and from the stadium, while at the same time I can meet your uncle at the airport?" Both of you come up with as many options as you can think of. Write down all the ideas.
- Ask the other person, "Which of these options are acceptable to you?" Mark them.
- Of those that are acceptable, mark the ones that are also acceptable to you.
- Ask the other person which of the options that are mutually acceptable does he prefer. Then confirm that you both agree to this option.
There are times when you realize that it's not important for you to get your way, you may not care...so you just let the other person win.
Other times, it may be important that you win and the other lose, because the need of the other person is unacceptable...e.g., they need to feed an addiction.
As you can see, the win-win negotiation is a skill...you need to practice it in life and work to get better at it. But it works like gangbusters!
I hope this is helpful.
2007-02-22 09:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes... It is only up to the two parties involved to remember that a win-win or NO DEAL is the only option.. and this shows trust and respect on both parties... If there is no win-win deal then no deal is the other viable option...
Hope I helped...;-)
2007-02-22 09:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is just a saying if you did win something in life somehow, but it is definitely not, if you think that way i see a long gurney for you in the future of many unhappiness!
2007-02-22 09:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by RI 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
win - win strategy I like that
2007-02-22 09:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋