My delima is this . I have been married only 1 year and we have been together for 6 years. My husband tells me he would like to have 2 girls since he has never tried it before. He had someone in mind who he picked out and wanted us to be friends. I really did'nt like the girl so eventually he stop talking to her. It seems like she would only call him and when I talked with her she would try to act as if she was not down to share if it were her husband. Almost as if she was trying to split us up.
But he still insist he would like to try this.
I have never been with a girl and not sure how I will feel about another female in my bed calling my husband at all hours talking about who know what.
Am worried about him. I feel like maybe am not satisfying him. I open with him sexually and we do all we can do as a couple. So I do'nt get it....Can someone please shed some light on this for me.
I do'nt want to lose my marriage. Am I being closed minded...
2007-02-22 00:39:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anaiyah M 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are absolutely NOT being close minded. You are wanting what most people want...a secure, loving and devoted marriage. Yes, men can go on and on about that "two girl" fantasy, but he should have fulfilled that fantasy before he fell in love. If he wanted to do that with strangers, then fine. But now he has to grow up and realize that he promised to love and cherish YOU and you only. Don't compromise your beliefs to make his selfish little immature dreams come true.
2007-02-22 00:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well most guy will keep on asking until they get what they want.. my husband did the same thing but it took a lot of talking about it and we came up with if he wanted a 3 some with a female then i wanted one with a male so we tried it with a couple this was when it happen I KNEW there was no STRINGS and we didnt not talk on the phone if any of us wanted to chat it was all on the computer and we would save the messages so if at any time one of us wanted to read it we could and if we did talk by phone then it was when both was home and we were both on the phone at the same time.. we did it and then after he found out it wasnt worth it but it got it out and done with!! but you have to be 100% ready for something like that and know that he is 100% staying with you and love you no mater what.. make rule to follow if you do it. and just tell him if you dont like some then its done and over with!!
2007-02-22 00:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he already has a relationship with the girl is she is calling him... Wanting a threesome is one thing most guys have fantasized about, but most guys haven't actually done it!!! That's why it's a fantasy... Bringing another women into your relationship will complicate things, even if you think its just for one night! The real situation is he wants to have sex with this other girl without the guilt of cheating on you! Tell him you don't want her to call the house anymore, and if you ever decide you are ready for a threesome that you will pick the girl... and since your doing something your not comfortable with you'd like to add another guy... if he's ok with this that should be a red flag... because adultery is adultery even when the other person knows about it!
2007-02-23 07:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by ms.jackson... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a lot of people have fantasy, here (Brazil) or China. But fantasy NO is reality. I and Y, and all have some, is normal. However, the man History tel who que prehistoric man have some women and some woman have some men; and tthis facto stey at the subconcius (have one book about this). Because this, is necessary (indispensable) to man orgasm. But only at fantasy, no more. And afther orgasm, many loving care an kisses.
2007-02-22 01:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by jose luis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've only been married for 1year and he's already pressuring you into a 3-some there is a definite problem. your husband wants his cake and wants to eat it too. you need to say NO. and that's that. if he can't handle this, that's his problem and you need to move on to someone that's more committed to you. once you allow this 3-some, he's going to become much closer to the other women, and distance himself more from you, and eventually your relationship will be over and he will be moving on with the other women.
stop this now. before it gets out of control. don't give in to his requests. what you are saying is that it's ok for him to screw other women.
he will dump you in the end.
2007-02-22 00:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a man's all time favorite fantasy. So his wanting to is normal. However, if YOU don't feel good with the idea, then he should respect your wishes, if he truly loves you. You don't sound like you are emotionally stable enough to do this, so don't. It could be the end of your marriage with those feelings. If you ever do get to be emotionally stable, it could be a blast. Tell him how you feel.
2007-02-22 00:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is between a man and his wife....not a man, wife and a friend. Why didn't he ask this of you before you married if you were together for 6 years? I think there is more to this girl he chose then he is telling you and I would be suspicous as to if they have slept together already.
2007-02-22 00:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you are going to indulge his fantasy (and since it isn't yours as well I wouldn't recommend it) Then you should be picking the girl together. Not the POA that he wants to have sex with but won't since you would divorce his cheating @$$. It also sounds like he wants to live out the other fantasy of watching two girls go at it and since you don't sound the least bit bi-curious is another strike against doing it. (Tho to get him to shut up tell him that you will AFTER you get to have a threeway with another guy and you want to see him with the guy as well)
While it is good to be "good,giving, and game" with your partners sexual fantasies they have to understand thaty you have personal limits as well.
2007-02-22 01:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, hold up..
I get that he has a fantasy that he'd like to make a reality, alot of people have fantasies, doesnt mean that they carry them out..
Right now i see a man, that didnt care about your feelings, and is being extremely selfish, i mean "HE PICKED OUT THE GIRL?" give me a break he's wanting to cheat but with ur permission so that he doesnt have to feel guilty..
Id put my foot down and say sorry not going to ever happen get it out of ur mind, and get rid of the girl.. he should of fufilled these fantasies before he decided to get married.. plain and simple..
2007-02-22 00:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word of advice. YOU are only married 1 year. Pack your bags and seek a lawyer. I smell huge trouble with him and you for life. Dont waste your life with this man. Its starting in the honeymoon stage. He should be only seeing you in his eyes. He thinks of sex as just sex, but sex should be sacred with the woman he married and adores. Dump his butt. Now.
2007-02-22 01:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋