Nice guy. Not-so-great couple. The girl in the couple finds the nice guy. They get along great. The guy on the couple isn't doing what he should be doing anymore. The girl is thinking of leaving the guy to stay with the nice guy.
Too impossible? Common? Not so shocking after all?
A friend of mine would be the nice guy. The couple would be an 8-year couple that has steadily been going downhill. The nice guy is pretty much giving the girl the world where the other guy didn't deliver.
Your thoughts?
2007-02-22 00:19:02 · 16 answers · asked by Mario E 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is what happens! I am not shocked at all. If one person is not happy and someone comes along and makes that person feel like they have wanted to feel he/she is going to go with that person. Your nice friend hopefully doesn't get hurt.
2007-02-22 00:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I wouldn't be surprised if this happens more often
then not. From what I remember in elementary school at a
young age was the first boy who was nice to me & not the
cutest. That comes later on!
If you think about why women cheat, I'm sure your answer woud be because the other man is nicer to her then her current husband or spouse. Some women may word it as more attention which is true but it also comes along with being nice. See how its wrapped up in there so secretively?
Here are all the reasons I could think of as to why women
would cheat:
1.Better looking/bigger _ _ _ _!
2.Better sex
3.Nicer attitude/manners/polite
4.More money/bigger house/car
Women, I believe, want nice then good looking, but more often when a women see's a good looking man she usually automatically thinks he's nice but which as we've learned can be very untrue.
Ask this girl in the not so great couple if she had the opportunity to cheat, what would be the number 1 reason?
My thought is that a man can obtain good looks at any point in his life whereas manners & just being nice & polite take time to master or achieve.
To finish this off, let me ask you this, if a girl was showering you with love, attention, gifts, sex & so on, where would you want to be? With her or your current spouse who does nothing of the sort? I know you'd pick the nice one who is showering you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck
Nicole
2007-02-22 02:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, she's going to leave for the "nice guy", why because she's being emotionally neglected and the "nice guy " basically came in and fufilled her emotional needs that he husband wasnt.. so basically because of good timing, and a shattered woman emotionally the nice guy will win.. does it make it right? no.. either way its still adultery, either way she's not being true to her vows.. its easy for the nice guy to come in and shower her with the attention and affection she needs.. at this stage.. because well its a "new relationship" problem is after time that does go away just like with her marriage.. and when that happens with this relationship she will do what she is doing now which is let another man come in and swoop her off her feet again when she becomes bored, or feels neglected..again, because to her marriage is a fairytale, and reality isnt a fairytale.. and instead of working through her marriage and owning up to her vows.. she will bounce from man to man thinking that the perfect one exsists..
2007-02-22 00:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's nervous of dropping you and thoroughly giving in to you for concern that it will no longer artwork out and it will flow away her heartbroken. that is basically been six months, that's no longer an prolonged time. i understand that is perplexing, yet once you quite love her, you're able to provide her a lot of help and records. steadily she will permit her look after down. You 2 are nevertheless youthful, do no longer positioned too lots stress on her. maybe she has on no account got here upon somebody such as you that she cares approximately lots, and it frightens her to think of roughly you dropping interest interior the dating. as long as she holds out, she maintains some style of administration over you, and that's the place your subject is. yet like I stated, you have basically time-commemorated her 6 months -wait and see; and discover different suggestions on the thank you to coach your love so she would be maintain in understanding which you will no longer flow away her while she makes a decision to take it to the subsequent point. solid luck :)
2016-11-24 23:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common. Not shocking at all. However, if your friend and her want to have a relationship, they should wait until the couple has finished. If she wants to get out of her current relationship, then she will. If they simply start now, the fact that they both were involved in cheating will weigh on their relationship and cause doubts as to whether either of them could ever be faithful.
2007-02-22 00:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with the nice guy. If the other guy wants to keep the girl he will change. If he doesnt make any effort, he must not care if she leaves anyway. If some guy offered me the world, i would go in a heartbeat!
2007-02-22 00:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Takita F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since it was an 8 year relationship, that he wouldn't shine the whole 8 years you know? I mean its not like you are gonna pour your heart, give gifts, write letters for ocho anos. He probably did it like the first few years you know? But thats what happens.
She just wanted to see new light and something new in her life. A new person always has there charm at first but it will slowly fade, like your friend and his girlfriend in their 8 year relationship.
I really hope that helps goodluck
2007-02-22 00:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years is a long relationship. I would tell your nice guy friend to be very cautious. She may be going through a phase in that relationship and realise after she leaves that she really didn't want out of the relationship and your friend would be dumped and hurt.
2007-02-22 00:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First needs to understand how they lived the past 8 years.
If it is not satisfactory i think you can not live live with somebody even for a week.
So ithink there is a emotional touch between the couple and now if they want to break that s a different story.
2007-02-22 00:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "nice guy" isn't so nice at all: he is actively working toward the dissolution of a marriage. How happy or dysfunctional that marriage is is irrelevant. The fact of the matter is that the married woman is not available and your friend is ignoring that extremely important fact.
2007-02-22 00:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋