the parents are divorced...the child lives with the father because he couldn't live with the mother(because of the rules) and now he doesn't like the rules of the father and wants to live with grandparents, because there are not many rules there. will a court system in west virginia allow this. he was told that as long as he was 14 he could chose to live where ever he wanted to live. i thought that to be true, but only if it was between the parents. there is no abuse...this kid just doesn't like rules whatsoever. i would appreciate any and all information and advice...thank you!
2007-02-22 00:09:29 · 10 answers · asked by mrs. m 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
i am not the grandmother, i am the stepmother. the child lives with her father and i. we have let the child stay with the grandparents for a few days. it doesn't help. we thought we were being too strict, so we gave more freedom....nothing seems to work. this child has 100% of everything he needs and 95% of everything he wants. there's just no respect for his father whatsoever. and the grandparents are the real mother's father and step mother. i am just between a rock and a hard place here. i have 2 stepchildren and i love them both dearly. this is causing hardship between my husband and i. the reason for the question is because we have been threatened with court over this. to me...less rules is just not the answer to all of this.
2007-02-22 00:35:04 · update #1
The kid needs to learn to deal with rules if he/she wants to be able to function in society. Not sure about West Virginia family law statutes.
2007-02-22 00:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like junior needs a good swift kick in the spoiled butt to me.
I have never heard of any jurisdiction that will let a spoiled child keep house hopping until he finds rules that he likes. If he is well cared for by the parents then he has no reason to move in witht he grandparent just because of rules.
In my humble opinion, stop caving to this little monster and inform him that there will be rules no matter where he lives. If and when he shows some maturity in complying with the rules of the household then privileges or lessening of the rules will be granted.
Life is not a box of chocolates, and too many children threaten their own parents with the "i'm gonna leave" line that parents cave. Let the little terror leave -- but only with the things that HE himself paid for. That would include his clother, his toys, his ipods, shoes, etc etc.....if he has never had to pay for any of the clothes on his back -- then point to the front door and tell him to leave in what the good Lord blessed him with upon his birth.
You, your husband, and the boys mother are being manipulated. He will never learn to get along in life if you allow it to continue.
2007-02-22 09:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are Mrs M? Does that mean you are the grandmother? Why don't you talk to his parents and see if he can come to your place for a while. Don't go to legal preoceedings till you can see how he goes for 2 full weeks.
His habits with friends, staying out late, how loud the music is, how little food is left in the fridge ... are you sure you want to go through that type of stuff again ... especially with a boy that doesn't like rules?
If He is the perfect little gentleman, see if his parents could let it be semi-permanent or permanent.
2007-02-22 08:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by wizebloke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the judge is a Liberal the child will be able to choose. If he is a Conservative not a chance.
I wonder if the child's biological mother drank alcohol during pregnancy and or did not bond properly with the child in the 1st 3 years of life.
Children that are subjected to these are never pleased and it is a very sad situation for the child if this is the case.
Regardless it sounds like family counseling is in order and I wish you luck.
2007-02-22 08:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this kid needs a "boot camp" program.
If your story is true, this young man better get a grip, and the "person in charge" needs to take control of the situation now!
Explain that if not now, at some point, he WILL experience the consequences of his actions.
PS: his grandparents need to be advised NOT to allow this kid to have another "easy out"
2007-02-22 08:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by pompanopete0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. The parents would have to sign over guardianship to the grandparent but I think any court would tell the child to follow the rules at his parents houses!!
2007-02-22 08:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone ought to tell the kid that the world is full of rules. They won't change for "young and dumb". It's not called the planet "Young and Dumb". I wonder if anyone told "young and dumb" that people expect him not to act like a LITTLE kid if he wants to have a say on where he lives. So he wants to live with the grandfolks so he can exploit them? I think not.
2007-02-22 08:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the trouble with kids today, they don't want to follow the rules. they don't want anyone telling them anything...they know it all....
tell this kid, if he doesn't like the rules, then he can go get a job, support himself...and make his own rules....
he can pay for his own bed, buy and cook his own meals, and do his own laundry. he can find his own ride to the mall.....and someone else to clean up his dirty socks and underwear off the floor. He can take himself to the doctor, pay for it himself, and wipe his own nose...if he's such a man, who doesn't want to follow anyone's rules.
if he's not willing to do that, then he should just shut up...and listen to his parents.
he should be thankful for what he's got, he could have been born to a family in some undeveloped country, and be eating beetles and worms everyday for breakfast.
2007-02-22 08:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by Campbell Gramma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the rules... hmm no you can't. it will be the same with with your grandparents. just because they are older, doesn't mean they won't have control over you.
plus, parents have legal power over you until you are 18. so as long as you are under that age and not supporting youself, you need to listen to them
2007-02-22 08:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
youre gonna have rules all youre life.thats a fact
2007-02-22 08:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by wofford1257 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋