I clean, cook, look after our kids well, yet he is nag nag nag all the time. He moans about not doing stuff yet it is stuff that he should be doing like sorting the car insurance out, as I don't drive and it is in his name. He also tries to speak in tongues like the born again christians do, and when we have a row, he slips in some words he has made up just to wind me up. He doesn't work due to illness, he has hobbies but won't do them as he is so wound up all the time.
2007-02-22 00:03:53 · 22 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So, you are a stay at home mom and he has no job.
Does that mean you people are living on welfare or some kind of disability?
He sounds Bi-polar to me, get him checked out.
I think you need to get some space.
Have him stay home and take care of the house, you learn to drive and go get a job.
2007-02-22 00:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is full of crap. Since he drives the car, and it's in his name, let him worry about the insurance. Take care of your responsibilities and don't worry about the rest. Your husband has control issues and he's trying to make your life miserable. You've got your hands full and you don't need another child to take care of, so stop babying him. If something goes undone in the house, so be it. You're only one person and you can only do so much, so don't let this man make you feel guilty with his whining and his temper tantrums. When's the last time you had a break? You need some time for yourself. Go shopping (even if it's window shopping), take in a movie, visit friends or family. If nothing else, pamper yourself with a soothing bath at the end of the day. Light some candles, throw on the bath salts, and indulge yourself.
By the way: why don't you drive? With all you have to do, you need to be able to get around without depending on your husband to take you places. Think about learning to drive. It will make your work much easier. If your husband doesn't want you to drive, it's only because he wants to control your comings and goings. Be aware of his tactics and don't let him get away with this stuff.
2007-02-22 00:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is depressed and needs to seek medical attention.
Sometimes depression can be linked to something as simple as not enough B vitamins or perhaps he is bored with his life and nothing is a challenge to him anymore. Have him go to the doctor for a physical, and after that he needs to get out and move. You mentioned he is ill, but I am sure there are some forms of things he can do. It's not up to you to change him. He has to do that for himself. However you can stress your concern and point him in the right direction. If he is a smart man, he will see that you are only doing it, because you care about him. Good luck.
2007-02-22 00:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Financial problems along with boredom makes a man wound up. They feel pressure because they have to watch what they say around you and the kids. You should go for some counselling but until then you should read some tips on this site www.drphil.com
2007-02-22 00:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a man is at home all the time he gets stir crazy. So what happens? They start annoying anyone in their sight. Its sad that he has a illness that stops him from working but if he doesn't find something to do he will drive you away. Men can't handle being inside all the time. You need to be honest with him and tell him he needs to find something to do he is driving everyone crazy and you can't take it anymore.
2007-02-22 00:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's his illness making him like this. I don't know what's wrong with him, but I know that not feeling good all the time can change your personality and make you angry. I am disabled and found it hard to deal with when I first had to stop working. He should appreciate all you do for him and your children. Maybe you should talk to his Dr about this. Just a suggestion.
2007-02-22 00:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe somethings wrong. He might have a problem, take some time to talk to him and see if you can make a deal or something so that he knows your being straight up and serious. He should know that something is wrong with you and yyou don't like how hes acting.
2007-02-22 00:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weird
2007-02-22 00:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by igiveup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to go to the Dr. and get some prozac, he may just be tired of doing nothing. He maybe tired of not being able to work..
2007-02-22 00:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't work due to illness.That right there is a crock even handicap people have jobs.Tell him to get a frickin job and help support the family,he is a lazy jerk.
2007-02-22 00:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋