I have been so upset for the last 2 weeks since my boyfriend broke up with me. I treated him so well. Another guy who I liked before had been texting on and off for the year but I told him I was seeing someone. He said he just wanted to meet for a coffee. He called me aswell a few weeks ago on the phone. I didn't answer I thought it was a bit cheeky since I told him several times I was seeing someone and did not want to meet for coffee. Then when I was dumped I text him , and he said he'd meet me straight away for a chat and coffee... but we didn't have coffee...he kissed me.
I was feeling so low at the time, that I hardly made an effort with him.I just kept thinking of my bf. The new guy is so nice asking me how I am every day telling me to keep my chin up. He has also told me I'm fantastic, and that every cloud has a silver lining, that I met him after all this time. I am so nervous now to meet up,as I like him. How do I cope?
2007-02-21 23:25:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have met up 2 days in a row. He has offered to do stuff for me. I find him really good looking. He hinted at a serious relationship with me too. He was supposed to call to meet again, one day and he cancelled. I was supposed to call to him, and I cancelled because I was scared that he wouldn't like me, even though it appears he really does like me. We are texting each other every day and he has asked me to do some stuff for his businesses. Stuff that I am good at. I was supposed to meet him today but this morning I was scared , nervous. Then he text me to meet tomorrow instead as he is away. I was relieved as I am soooo nervous to meet him. I can't meet tomorrow,as I have my own plans for the wkend. Any advice?
2007-02-21 23:38:50 · update #1
...a step at a time...
You cope with your loss first.
Give yourself a chance to get your old boyfriend out of your system.
This guy that continually texted you even though you were with someone doesn't seem to respect boundaries very well...he also doesn't seem to respect the word "no".
Now that he has the "green light" - he's moving in quickly - theres no resistance because you're grieving and need the attention.
...I wonder how eager he will be once he "has" you and there's no longer a challenge.
I wonder whose boundaries he'll violate next...
I wonder who's "no" will he encroach upon...
Give yourself time...he waited this long...
he can wait a little longer.
2007-02-21 23:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from another woman. He is being a jerk, very incentive to your feelings and if it had not been for the fact that you found the notebook. He would be doing all this behind your back. You can do so much better. I wish there was more really deep things I could say to you, but it is pretty cut and dry. He needs to be kicked to the curve and you need to find a guy that will be honest and faithful to you.
2016-05-23 22:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slowly for the time being, but if you do genuinely like the new guy, go for it.
I work with a guy who persued the same girl for two years, while she was seeing someone else, before she went out with him. Now they've been together three years and they're devoted to each other. It can work.
2007-02-22 00:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your problem? Don't really understand the situation beyond your old bf dumped you so that is in the past. Now you have a new guy who you are to meet up with and you like him. What's to cope with? Do you know, we all have it so good we have to make up problems.
2007-02-21 23:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by LillyB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy every moment you sound like you need cheering up and anyway this new chap sounds like he will help you get over your old b/f and in time you will know if this new fella is the one you want to spend more time with. these type of guys don,t come by very often so make the best of it because if you don,t there always some other girl waiting to take your place.
Good luck!!
2007-02-21 23:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by caz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u owe your ex nothing because he is the one who left u first. this guy seems to be head over heels in love, my advice is to love the one u are with and let the other one go. u are completely free to begin a new chapter in your life now, don't wait on th ex to come back it never does work after u were dumped.
2007-02-21 23:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!! He held in there while you were seeing the other guy, hoping for one chance just to be with you. He has to sincerely like you and judging from his actions, would treat you like a princess. You have to get over the ex and treat yourself to a respectful man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
2007-02-21 23:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its too soon, ever heard of rebound, take it slowly get over your ex first or there will be repurcussions if you try to have a relationship with this guy, be friends first work out what you really want and give yourself some time and space.
2007-02-21 23:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by nopi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the relationship hon. Take it east and let things flow. Don't even think of the one who dumped you, he is the loser. Do not treat the boyfriend better than you treat yourself. But, Enjoy Him....
2007-02-21 23:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by DolphinLami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe concentrate on recovering from bf, and rebuilding your health and self-esteem, then when you are sure and sassy again, you will know for sure who you want to spend time with .
2007-02-22 00:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by madresicilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋