I just found out that I was pregnant again and I just had a baby literally 4 months ago... has anyone else been in this situation and what is the best way to handle it?
2007-02-21 23:25:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hello there.
The best way to handle your situation is with a good attitude, a lot of love and a sense of humor! As much as you love the baby that you just had you will love your new baby that much! Keep that in mind when it seems to be overwhelming.
Think of the mother's who have twins. They manage and you certainly you can do the same.
One good thing is that you already have so much of the baby equipment that with the exception of a few things you that you will need to duplicate you have all of the necessary things.
Were you totally breastfeeding the baby that you have? If you are I am surprised that you got pregnant so soon unless you were adding solids or formula. One thing that you can do to make your life a lot easier this time around is to promise to breast feed this baby. That way you will get alot more rest and will have more time to yourself. You will not waste all that time making and sterilzing bottles and nipples. Your new baby will be a very happy, easy, content baby because his or her needs will be readily met and there will be so much less crying to contend with. Brestfed babies never have to wait for their bottle, consequently they do not get all worked up and cry to the point where it is difficult to soothe them. They are so content and happy that they are very easy to take care of. When they are hungry all you have to do is to pick up the baby, sit ( or lie) down and relax. They practically take care of themselves. If you make the decision to nurse this new baby your life will become easier in so many ways.
You will be able to tuck this new little one into your life. I know it must seem overwhelming right now but do try to keep telling yourself that the baby you have now will be that much older when the new baby comes. You will not have two infants at the same time. The baby that you have now will probably be walking! Also remember as they get older they will always have each other to play with and will never be bored! They will probably stay close all their lives.
It can be done. Never underestimate the power of a mother! We can do anything,
Remember, you will love this precious little baby just as much as the one you have now! You are going to have another little child to cherish. You have been blessed. Just remember that. Everything happens for a reason and maybe this new little baby has a very special gift for you. I personally had something very much like this happen to me and after two boys I finally got my beautiful baby daughter. She and her brother are 24 and 25 now and they love each other dearly. Life unfolds the way it is supposed to, have faith and just be a mother. It seems that is what you are supposed to be doing now. Accept that and go with the flow (life does have a flow).
I often stop and ask myself what I would have done so many times in my life without my daughter and I honestly don't know. She has grown into a lovely young woman that I am very proud of and she is my best friend.
Life often gives us what we need and to change what life has given us is often a terrible mistake that we do not see until it is too late. Don't throw away precious gifts that life gives you. Have faith, everything will work out..
I would love to talk to you if that would help you at all, you can reach me by going to my profile and either emailing me or sending me an instand message.
Love and Blessings
Lady Trinity~
2007-02-22 00:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 4 1/2 months old when I found out I was pregnant again!!! So your not alone...My son was born July 16,06 and the new baby is due, August 3,07!! So they will be about 1 year and 3 weeks apart..Yes it will be hard having them so close together but at least they will always have a playmate their age!! You will also have all the big stuff already (swing,car seat,etc..) and even if they are different sex, some of the clothes can be passed down to(blankets nightgown etc..) I was really worried at first but once I saw the baby on ultrasound and seen the little heart beating, I melted all over and now I`m getting really excited!! Good luck to you!!! Congrats!!
2007-02-21 23:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by bad kitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have a lot of work ahead of you. Hopefully, you have a very helpful partner!
If not, don't be ashamed to ask for help from friends and family. Especially if you begin to feel overwhelmed emotionally. Post-partum depression is very serious and you will have a double dose of it!
Just remember that you are NOT the first one to go through this, and you won't be the last. (My sister-in-law had 6 kids in 6 years! THAT is just plain crazy- lol)
If you thought you were protected from pregancy, I would take a look at whatever methods you were using, and find a better one for after this next baby's arrival.
I was only blessed with one child, although we tried for more, and some people that want children can't even concieve the one! So count your blessings and raise up some happy, healthy, kind and considerate human beings.
2007-02-21 23:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time. I got pregnant again when my oldest was 9 months old. I felt embarrassed because I thought people would think we didn't know about birth control. Then someone pointed out to me it would be embarrassing if your oldest was 18 and you got pregnant again. Just accept the fact that you will be busy for the next couple of years and at least you have all kinds of baby stuff that is not outdated.
2007-02-21 23:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be, however i don't suppose so. Your physique is just getting again to normal. But i hope you don't intellect, I have got to let you know our story: Our first pregnany used to be definitely natural. Identical with delivery. The twin women have been born with none problems. When members of the family started again, wife stated equal as you, "no more capsule. The screwed up my physique, don't worry we're risk-free for a number of extra months" I believed her, on the grounds that she believed her grandmother! 11 months later, 2nd set of twin women had been born. We taught ourselves a rough lesson in clinical fact. No delivery manipulate - approach possible being pregnant. Sufficient said? Ps: 6 years later our son was once born. The girls are actually 17 & sixteen. And the little boy is the King of the fort. Great speaking to you. Good good fortune to you and your household.
2016-08-10 16:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i havent been in that exact situation, but i have a 17 month old and am pregnant again (single mom) the best thing you can do is just be there for both your children, doesnt matter how far apart they are, they are still going to be fun and bring joy to your life, you'll be just fine. plus maybe it wont be so bad having them so close together, they could bond better, good luck sweetie, i hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-21 23:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma had my dad and uncle 11 months appart. My sister in law got pregnant 6 months after having my nephew...she's due at the end of March.
Your doctor may watch you a little more closely this time at least at the beginning, because your body didn't get to fully recover....
congratulations.
2007-02-22 00:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom got pregnant with my sisters six weeks from giving birth.
It is usually called Irish twins! Be prepared for a short labor and delivery!!!! You children will love it though! They will grow up very much together. What besides having it would you be able to do at this point... Just think of it as a late twin. Make sure you bottle break the first one at about a year to avoid too many bottles and diapers:)
2007-02-21 23:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by OMeganO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think the best way to handle this situation is by thanking God for giving you the best in life and learn to accept it
2007-02-21 23:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is awfully soon to be pregnant again. What you want to do, is your decision. If you decide to keep the pregnancy, it will be very taxing on your body. It can be done but, do you want 2 children so close in age?
Another possibility is that, because it's so close to your recent birth, you stand the possibility of a miscarriage.
Your last option is an abortion.
No matter what you choose, your health will suffer.
2007-02-21 23:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋