If u have a die-hard alcoholic in your family, who does not want to come out of it, and you have tried everything, from medical help to prayers even, and he still just does not wanna get fine, and has become a great disturbance in your life and other s lives as well, and does not wanna work his/her own livelihood and has become a parasite, what is the next step you would take?
2007-02-21 22:46:46 · 7 answers · asked by adyno1 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm an alcoholic who hasn't touched alcohol in two years!
Alcoholism is hard to deal with. If YOU believe he has become a parasite, get help for yourself. AL ANON are great.
The thing with alcoholism is that every alcoholic is different. One thing we have in common: hitting the bottom! You have to hit that bottom hard to be able to give yourself a little push up. I hit the bottom fast. It takes more time for others.
Don't try to make him get away from you, but get away from him. Leave him alone, and stop spending your energy on trying to save him. Save that energy for yourself. Take good care of yourself before to look after others.
But when he asks for help, real help: not money! Medical help, be there for him. There's A.A. meeting, N.A. meetings... so many! Everywhere! There is one in every neighbourhood... or just about!
But back off for now. That's your next step: just Back off.
Good luck!!! There is always hope.
2007-02-25 13:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Andrine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to contact Al-anon or AA locally (they are everywhere). They can point you towards resources that might be useful to you and the alcoholic in your life. Bottom line" they aren't going to change unless or untill they want to, so you need to take care of yourself first. Good Luck to you
2007-02-21 23:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by speckledgator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut him off. if may be hard, since its family and all, but thats the only way u r going to be able to help. hopefully he will realize what he is doing to himself and the family and decide to get some help. some people just need to get to a certian point before they can see what they have become.
2007-02-21 22:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly be researching alcoholism, one series is "the family" by john bradshaw. Once having read that I would then be contacting him and his group who offer services in the USA.
2007-02-21 23:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by absoluddle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-09 16:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell this person that youre not going to just let them mooch off you, thats not fair. if they dont want to admit they have a problem, say, whether you drink or not, i dont care, but you gotta carry your own weight. get a job, man.
2007-02-21 22:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by the Bruja is back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to find something that interest him more than the booze. only thing you can do is let him go.
2007-02-21 22:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋