I really don't understand this perspective - surely it's her husband she should be blaming?
And before you judge - I am not, nor have I ever had, an affair!
2007-02-21 22:46:26 · 35 answers · asked by Colette 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she shouldnt u r right! if the man chose to cheat, he will do it anyhow with anyone. the one who agrees to do it, shouldnt feel bad because shes not cheating so its not her fault someones husband is cheating. if he is like that he is to blame not the other woman
2007-02-25 02:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has a conscience she should care because she should know what irreparable damage an affair will do to a marriage. But if it weren't her it would probably be some other woman, she won't stop this man from cheating but she could stop him from cheating with her. Plus I never understood what a woman gets from seeing a married man. Is she happy knowing that she is a secret and doesn't really count in his life. I wouldn't want to be that. So another reason she should care is for her own self esteem.
I am in agreement that a wife should hold her own husband responsible though. I don't think she can blame the woman because she really owes nothing to their family.
2007-02-21 23:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you had an affair with a married man then his realtionship with his wife, or his wifes feelings, are nothing to do with you. It is his problem and not yours. If it wasn't you he was with he would probably be cheating on her with someone else anyway. You don't have to consider the feelings of a woman you have never met!
It is the husband who is to blame definetley!
The right thing to do is not have a relationship with someone who is already attached but sometimes these things happen and its up to that person and their consious to decide the next time.
2007-02-21 23:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Esquire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other woman doesn't care about the wife or her feelings, her goal and agenda is to get him to choose her over his wife, any way she can, she is not focusing on the wife, or her pain, she sees only her own needs, her wants, she wants a future with him, she is needy, wants to be in a relationship, and will do anything to get it. sometimes its the competition she seeks, just knowing she can take him. the husband is the most to blame as he is the one who made the commitment, but chances are if the husband has now become selfish and uncaring it is usually he is becoming just like the one he is sleeping with, someone who just doesn't care, who wants what the wife has because she doesn't have, and so be it even if the man is married, she has one goal here.she doesn't think she will ever be in the wife's shoes, as she thinks she is superior to the wife. the other woman should care but never does.
2007-02-21 23:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't. If another woman can come between a man and his wife then there wasn't anything there before she came into the picture. So why blame the other woman. Wives just don't want to take full responsibilty for the role they played in their husband's infidelity.
2007-02-21 22:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The personality of the type of person that can be the other woman is usually self centered so she probably does not think about the wife. She probably has a low self esteem or she wouldn't tolerate being The other woman and try to find an available man for herself.
2007-02-21 22:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Miranda C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason she would care would be a kind of women's solidarity thing. And if she doesn't know her at all - well who spends a lot of time caring about strangers?
If the husband is cheating, then she probably **** the bed. People cheat because they are not getting something at home they need. Some of it is sex, some of it is companionship or a friend.
2007-02-21 22:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango and it surely is the other woman and the man who's cheating on his wife to blame..
The other woman needs to check herself and realise that the couple are bound by holy matrimony. There are plenty of fish in the sea, if she was decent she wouldn't involve herself with a married man..
2007-02-26 05:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by anjie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly blame the husband!! He is the one that has to take in consideration his wifes feeling.I personaly would feel bad for the wife and probably far to guilty to put another woman in that situation but then again you cant always help who you fall in love with! x
2007-02-21 23:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is a woman too and women need to stick together and it takes two people to mess up so you cant blame one or the other. anyway just dont have an affair and noone has to worry about it .
2007-02-21 23:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a mean thing to do, to step into somebodys family where a commitment has been made and children born and to know that there is a very good chance that u will be a factor in ruining a marriage, childrens lives & everything else that gets distroyed.
do not do unto others that u do not wish to be done to u.
2007-02-22 00:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by K W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋