The man cooks for, you cleans up behind himself and works and you wanna be free but still care about how this will affect him
2007-02-21 22:41:39 · 4 answers · asked by purplecatfancier 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i had to tell my bf that it was time we called it quits after 19 months. for you it will be harder since you have been with your bf for so much longer yet sit down with him and tell him that you are no longer happy in this relationship, that it would be for both your benefits to go your separate ways and also tell him that people change and you two want different things from life. tell him that the love that you had for him has died over time and actually tell him the truth because it is better for you and his sake vs not doing anything or saying one word! also, do not break up with him on his b-day or something that you know will hurt him even more. just be honest with the guy because honesty is the best policy! he might not want to hear what you have to say but at least you can get away from the realtionship and find happiness!
2007-02-21 23:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first just say as what you just did and get it over it and move on. Dont say you care when you dont, dont lie, its okay not to care and be true. If you think freedom gives you happiness in life compared to someone who has always been there and support you for the past 8 years of your life, hey just do it and dont bother how it will effect him, its stupid enough for you to even ask this question, either way you try to tell him, you still breaks his heart no matter what. No one can really help you here, you've got to be true and just do it. But i would think twice or even more than that, being with someone who cares and love you means alot more than getting freedom but at the end of the day you home alone, or realise how alone you are in life, other than family members i mean. I dont even know how could you leave him, after 8 years. If freedom is what you want, please think with freedom, comes responsibilities and a whole lot of other things, trust me, its only gives you happiness for a while, what happens when your bored of that? can you be alone? You can still be free at the same time be with him, comprises should be made, more communication and understanding and work together. Good luck.
2007-02-21 22:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you fell outta love with him. 8 years was beautiful but now you don't have the same feelings as before and you need time out.
2007-02-21 22:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him out right
dont beat around the bush or push blame on him
it will hurt badly but its one shot
dont drag it out and dont continue to lie to him
yes i said lie
every min of every day you stay together is a lie
so get it over with as fast as possible so he can grieve and get on with his life
2007-02-21 22:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋