A question about infidelity for married/separated/divorced women?

Question

I am single women and I use a dating site - I am stunned at the amount of married men on line, who are looking for another woman to spend time with!

I believe they either have something missing at home, or have got it all and want more!

What do you think?

Answer 1

They are the married bachelors! lol!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I would imagine those men are not serious about dating, they probably are after an ego boost to be contacted by women and have some attention which is probably missing after so many years of marriage. I would think that very fewof those men on dating sites would go through with anything with anyone they met online.
I think they probably are missing something at home, they want that initial excitment again.
Stay away from them!! x

Answer 4

Men that go on line and look for love are idiots. Those are the same men that you see in public and act like they are afraid to even get caught looking at other women. They have no social skills, no charisma, and in general they do not know how to talk to women face to face.

That's why they marriages are in trouble. If they can't relate to women in general, they surely can't seduce their wife. There are a lot of wives that simply need to be seduced by their husband, but their husbands have no seduction skills.

Answer 5

Now I have read all the comments to this question and I have this to say:

Generalizing is not a nice thing to do... not only men cheat you know. Actually, alot more women cheat, its just not that widely discussed as male cheats. And yea, like someone else said - you can call it cheat, adultery etc.... But sometimes its not because there is a problem in their marriages or homes... alot of times couples do these things together in order to spice up their marital sex lifes. Alot of couples engage a girl or guy on internet only and get some ideas that way, and others actually allow one of the two partners to (or both) to wander around with each other's consent. Strange I know, but who are we to judge other people? As long as you do what you believe in and what your own morals allow.

Answer 6

I say that it's not just men that cheat. I tried a dating site once and found that there were many married women on there also; the bored house wife thing. It's a sad state of affairs these days.

My ex wife cheated on me, it really hurt me. I would not do that to anyone, the pain that I went through was horrid.

Answer 7

Any long term relationship is hard work, and sex/affection is one of the first things to suffer when things get hard.

I believe there would be a great deal more divorces and break ups if people didn't look elsewhere occasionally.

I don't think its all just about physically gratification, sometimes someone just wants to be close to someone.

The sad thing is, that if they put the same effort in to their failing relationship as they do into finding another women, they'd reap much greater benefits.

Answer 8

I'm married and do NOT use these sites or any site but I can maybe shed some light on why. Shortly after marriage MOST women cut there sex output to about 10% of what it was, especially after children. Men have a hard time dealing with it. So they justify lack of sex for there actions looking elsewhere for it,

Answer 9

I think it's both. It depends on their situation, though. It's been my experience that men sometimes get bored, though not a good enough excuse to cheat, reality is somewhat worse than expectation. Or perhaps they are in an open relationship. Who knows. The real question is, do you feel comfortable dating a married man?

Answer 10

we all know men are men, but i think that as women we should respect one another.
If a women knowingly dates a married man she should consider what pain & emotional stress it causes to the wife & inturn the children, a wife can not be the mother she wants to be, ie happy & fun with her children if there is marital problems going on, especially a husband being unfaithfull, i know it takes 2 to tango but if the women didn't encourage the men then they might try a little harder within the marriage instead of running to the 1st easy lay they come across (i donn't mean litaraly !!!!!!)

Answer 11

I've been lucky - I've been on a few dates from these sites, but they've never had baggage - we just didn't click. Those that do are trying their luck. I imagine some will chicken out when it comes to the 'dirty deed' but others will blatently cheat on their partners/wives.

Unfortunately - without a private investigator it would be hard to weed out the good ones - so my advice is to practice safe sex...