well im a 24year old virgin and im engaged the thing is my to be husband is emphasising on sex and im scared about having sex for the first time i no im a little old to be scared about such a thing but im the type of person who tries to avoid pain and blood by all means so if you have any advice about how to make the first time easier feel free to give an answer
2007-02-21 22:01:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
i dont use tampons
2007-02-21 22:12:02 · update #1
im not only scared about the pain but also the blood mostly the blood infact and i hear it'll affect the way i walk
is there any position that works best
2007-02-21 22:58:32 · update #2
OH hunny please please don't worry over this. I lost my virginity at 2o and was terrified over how much it would hurt. and it did hurt a bit but you will be with the man you love and he will be so gentle if you need him to be. The blood thing is very overrated. The only blood i saw was a very slight red tint present in my own bodily lubricant.
I recommend that for your first time you lie on your back, legs apart and have your husband enter you from above. I find this position most comfortable for the female.
As for you being "too old" to be worried? You're so wrong on that. I think no matter how old you are, if you have never done it it can be worrisome. And I really really respect your decision to put sex off until now. So many young people dont give the decision the kind of thought it requires. good luck, enjoy, and make sur eyou discuss these fear with your husband to be... he cant know how you feel unless you tell him.
2007-02-21 23:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by kerri c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to someone with experience. Your question is about pain and how to make the first time easier.
Go to your local K-Mart and buy yourself some KY. It is the pharmacy. It's a lubricant. They now come in flavors. Minutes before the first event, go to the bathroom and lubricate yourself. Make sure you get some of the stuff inside your vagina.
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The orgasim is something you must feel. Enjoy.
2007-02-22 07:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by P W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that ur fear is because u have not married yet. May be ur unconscious mind deeming it as guilt. It know what kind of person u r. To b frank, it is impossible not to experience pain on first sexual relation, coz hymen is the layer which gets torn on first relation , and when some part of ur body is injured and u don't experience pain, it is just silly thing to say. of course u can minimize that pain but not totally get rid of it.
What u need to do is to b relax completely, have a word with ur partner, Have faith on him, ask him to use some lubricants.
U need not to think of pain but to have pleasure of sex. so concentrate on pleasure not on pain.
Pain or pleasure from that act, u r going to experience depends on ur view completely
2007-02-22 06:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by doctor.arif 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello osas,
don't be afraid to give yourself to your husband......the most important thing is for you to relax and go with the flow.........i also recommend that you use a personal lubricant before sex....that will make things alot easier for you if you are all lubed up. tell your husband if he hurts you and ask him to go very slowly.....i found that a couple of glasses of wine really took the edge off for me.....it does not hurt much......it's just like if someone pinched your arm....not bad at all.
AND MY MOTTO IS THAT IT HURTS SOOOO GOOD !!!!!
Good luck and may God bless and keep you safe and happy and by the way........congratulations on your upcoming marriage
2007-02-22 06:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness #1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are ready and relaxed, maybe a couple of glasses of wine will help. The chances are high that there will be no blood and very little pain. If you have used tampons then there will be minimal discomfort and definitely no blood.
2007-02-22 06:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Virginity is like a balloon--One poke and it is gone. Dont be afraid. Apply some jelly or lubricant onto your organ. Ask your husband to do it slowly. it will be over in few seconds. After this first time, you will ask for more. Goodluck.
2007-02-22 07:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Davelin Ji Sheng 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i haven't had any sex before i was married and yes you will bleed and you will have sweet nice enjoyable pain make sure that you have with you for your first time a vaginal douche,lubricant (he puts it on his penis)and donot let him to go totally inside you till you are comfortable just bit by bit and donot break the hymen with his finger.you will love am sure just tell your guy to be gentle on you.good luck sweety.
p.s i lost mine your same age
2007-02-22 08:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be like scratching a mosquito bite... a good kind of pain
you should be able to use a mirror and look and see if your hymen is still there... or feel it with a finger..?
2007-02-22 06:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let me guess, your a jehovas witness or mormon.
If you scared, break the hyman yourself - banana, gerkin, or something like that.
2007-02-22 06:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jews for Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont be scard my dear
give ur full body to ur husband he will take care of u
all the best
2007-02-22 06:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by xyz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋