2007-02-21 21:59:08 · 67 answers · asked by Colette 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your own spouse of course. You are not in a committed relationship with whomever they have cheated with. The spouse is the person who has betrayed your trust. It matters little whom they cheated with. The fact is THEY cheated. Furthermore as a happily married man I would just like to say "How you doin?"
2007-02-21 22:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow..this is a loaded question.
Well, the person who had the affair is to blame. No one forced them into cheating. Yes, it is possible that the spouse drove them into the arms of another, but before going into cheat mode things could have been communicated.
Sometimes people have open affairs and so there really is no blame cause everyone is aware what is to happen.
Mainly though, society and our past is to blame. Marriage and monogamous relationships are very new considering the history of humans. Back in the days when we lived in caves everyone was free. Men and women did it with whomever they were attracted to. Women did not rely on a man to take care of the family unit since the community of the tribe did that.
2007-02-27 12:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by I Know, I Know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone including you!
Everyone had a hand in it one way or another.
I'll explain.
First off, I blame everyone involved & heres why:::
1. Okay why did the spouse cheat? Not happy, doesn't listen, doesn't open up, hates this or hates that, etc, etc, etc...
If the husband or wife of the cheater made every attempt possible & with sincerity to make their partner happy, loved & so on, do you think they would have ever cheated in the first place or even unbeknowenst to them looking to cheat?
More then likely, NO.
When your happy, are you looking to be somewhere else?
For me, NO.
Just plain & simple, the husband/wife of the cheater
should have paid more attention or worked on the
relationship much more.
2. The spouse, no matter how hurt, unhappy, sad,
depressed, unappreciated, should have ended the
relationship. Not only for themself but for everyone involved
or at the very least, Said NO to the advances/attention of
someone new, no matter how tempting..... or wrong it was.
Just plain & simple, the spouse should have said NO.
3. The other man/women should have had the sense or
decency to say no or at least ask if theres someone else,
no matter how nasty or unpleasant.
Just plain & simple, the other man/women should have
said NO.
Everyone is to blame one way or another, no matter
how unintentional.
Nicole
2007-02-21 22:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spouse of course the other woman doesn't know you. And who knows what was said to lure them into the affair. But most people blame the outsider cause it's easier to deal with.
2007-02-21 22:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl143_dk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation - personally I'd blame the cheater and the other man/woman.
The spouse should not cheat in the first place - if there are problems either sort them out or move on first.
Equally the other man/woman usually knows they are married and should steer well clear of the spouse while they are still married.
It called having values and principles in life!
2007-02-21 22:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's on both of them they are both wrong especially is the "other woman or man" knew about the marriage. However, accountability lies with your spouse. They are the ones that owes you the apology and should be held responsible. No matter how, "weak" the other person "makes" them. Now that it's out in the open it is the cheating spouses responsibility to end the relationship and make things right with their spouse.
2007-02-21 22:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe if a spouse cheats on you, there is enough blame to share between the husband, wife and other man/woman. Sad but True.
2007-02-21 22:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The spouse
2007-02-21 22:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by bette69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is usually 50 / 50 I guess,,,, and depends whether or not man confessed he was married,,,, And spouse plays a big part in husband / wife having affairs sometimes too,,,,I imagine some spouses can drive their mate into someone else's arms,,,,,I would say to some degree all are to blame one way or another,,,
2007-02-26 16:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Gringa_uno 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe the blame would be more on your spouse, as they are the ones who made the commitment with u, and promised to forsake all others. the other person is also to blame but not as much, as your spouse made a choice, it did not just happen, they thought about it, and still decided to do it. the spouse is much more to blame, as they are the ones u trusted, and believed in, the ones u gave your heart to.
2007-02-21 22:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋