friends? huh!!!?

Question

i hav 2 close friends,but they both always talk over me!!!!! everything i say im doing,1 has to do better! im moving from northern ireland to england coz my fiance is joining the army so if i try to talk about that she butts in and tells me about how her man wots them to move to bloody australia,then canada!!!!like hello?! im acually goin to beeeee moving,listen to me!!!!im also engaged and arranging the wedding,if i try and talk about that her and her man r gona go over abroad somewhere ,shes nt even engaged after 7 years of being together,im the 1 with the ring on my finger!!!also i hav 1 child she has 2 and were trying for another,she recently found out she was pregnant and was so adament about nt keeping it,but unfortuntaly she lost it but nw she wants a wee girl,wen personally i dont think shes ready,but why does she do it??am i being unreasonable?all id like is to talk without her butting in and me never acually finishing a conversation.............

Answer 1

If she interrupts you say I was speaking then she'll let you finish,stand up for yourself!

Answer 2

You sound like somebody who loves their friend otherwise you wouldn't be on here asking us for advice. There are many things you could do there... all the above has suggested it. I encourage you to look from NOT what is it that you want (because that is clear) but what is it that you STAND for in your relationship.

For example. I have a friend and it took me years to tell her stuff that had been buggin me about her personality. I always thought she was either gonna shout at me or give up being my friend. Throughout this time it was extremely difficult to get on with her and she never got the real me and i never got the real her (although we did have fun inbetween). I realised that actually I was being very selfish because I wasn't giving her a chance to show up anyother way than how I had created her in my mind. I spoke up about our relationship and it served a great purpose. I mean we still have **** that pisses us off but now i'm not frighten to say how i feel. My stand was that i wanted everybody to experiences FREEDOM around me... and that means that they are able to be what ever they are

How u gonna be with your friend? She may not even know she's doing it

Answer 3

I have a friend, that didn't used to look like she was paying attention when I was talking. She is married but would rather admire the fit guys walking past the window, glance round the room or if we had another friend with us start a conversation with her.

As soon as she didn't this I would stop talking and say "erm I was talking to you" and when she proceeded to tell me she was listening I asked her what I had just said. This always got her attention back.

If she really is a close friend she/they should want to listen to what you are saying and let you share the conversation equally.

Answer 4

This doesn't sound like a true friendship in my humble opinion. There seesms to be an element of rivalry between the two of which isn't uncommon amongst girls. Maybe your friend is jealous and feels inadequate because of all these exciting changes that are taking place in your life. Maybe she feels her life pales in comparison - so it's not suprising if she doesn't respond positively to talk of your upcoming plans.

Sit down with her and ask her to level with you. As friends you should be able to discuss anything with her and she shouldn't harbour resentment towards you because you're getting married and are happy. A true friend would support you in spite of how they feel.

Answer 5

Sounds like she is self-centred. She might not realise she is doing it. Why not mention it to her? Just casually to avoid conflict if you like. Sometimes it takes true friends to tell you something like that.

The other thing is - perhaps she is not the right kind of friend for you. Friends listen and share with each other. She is a bit selfish. (But we all have our weakness's dont we!)

Good luck with the move and with the wedding etc. Sounds like life is all happening for you at the moment!

Answer 6

to me it doesnt seem like she is a close friend she always seems to talk about herself but then again this is just your view on it and i am answering on what you said, to me a close friend is someone who is always there for you and you are always there for them but it has to be equal in terms of giving each other time to speak about whats worrying them. Maybe she will realise what she has lost when you actually do move and then she might regret it but inly she will know and poss you.
Have you tried to just tell her to shut up for a minute and tell her how you feel and then she might listen to you and problems?
if not my advice is find some else who is a close friend.
Good luck in the move i am sure everything will work out for you both.

Answer 7

I know where you're coming from - most people i'm sure will know people like that. There is a brilliant book (available from Amazon or most other stores) called "How to win friends & Influence people - by the author Dale Carnegie" It basically just tells you about things you can do yourself to be more respected amongst friends and family but much more besides.

Answer 8

i had a friend like that, she would talk only about herself, I text her once about my daughter being ok from a heart check up ( thank you God) and she rang me that night and didn't mention it once, she was just going on and on about arguing with her mum, which happened everyday. I never minded listening to her going on and on about herself (and believe me it was all the time) but it would pee me off if something important happened to me and she would go yeah well anyway I had this aargument at work, all she would do is moan about everything! In the end she decided she didn't want to be my frined anymore because she didn't like herslf when she was with me, but that was ok because I didn't either!

Answer 9

Um - have you stopped her and asked her why she doesn't let you finish speaking? Ask her outright if she thinks anything of your opinion, and that it's horrible to be talked over all the time.

I knew someone like that at work -it was only when we let her know she was doing it that she realised she had been. She got a lot nicer to talk with after that.

Answer 10

I used to have a friend like that,she was jelous of everything I have,if I bought something new she would go out and buy the same,if my kids had something her kids would have to have the same.She also used to dominate conversations.Her marriage was always the best despite her being unfaithful several times.Glad she is out of my life now.

Answer 11

i does no longer say that she replaced right into a chum through fact she doesnt care approximately what you desire. She craves the attention out of your boyfriend. a guy or woman who does that to thier ultimate chum shows that they could be controlling. She does it just to spite you. I consistently theory there replaced right into a rule approximately your human beings relationship your boyfriend. If "he" additionally likes then you why is he in spite of her? tell the two one in all them (no longer on a similar time) how uncomfortable you're abou this. in the event that they do no longer freshen up thier act, then you certainly are extra effectual off. i wish I helped!!!