We don't want to have kids now so it is HER responosibility for birth control. I should not have to worry about it. So how can I train her to not forget to take it anymore?
2007-02-21 21:12:49 · 29 answers · asked by Lothario 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are so selfish, why is it only her responsibility. As I read correctly you says WE do not want, so why don't you go and wear something, or even go to the hospital and fix yourself so you don't have to worry ever again. Don't put all the blame on her, be man enough to do something yourself
2007-02-21 21:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Blacksabel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with all those that think you are completely unreasonable. I guess that since we don't have birth control issues in our house my husband doesn't have to train or punish me(*). Maybe I should figure out a way to punish (*) my hubby when he forgets his blood pressure med's - he gets awful cranky when he doesn't take them. I should have trained him better(*). I guess the best "punishment" would be to obstain from sex until next month(*), but your wife may just find that as a reward, and flat out quit taking the pills all together (no (*) here).
As far as her being responsible for the birth control, that pill doesn't always cut it. I have a brother that was conceived while mom was on the pill, and they used a condom, and contraceptive foam. And a sister who was conceived while on the pill and using a condom. SO take some responsibility for your own actions caveman.
Of course if you do have a bouncing baby boy or girl, it probably wouldn't be the end of the world. If it is the end of your world, you could always place it with a family who can only dream of babies.
2007-02-22 05:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by picture . . . perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You irresponsible arrogant jerk! You are a couple and as a couple BOTH need to take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your relationship! Its supposed to be a partnership. She is your life partner not a dog to be trained. How dare you be a passenger in the journey of marriage. She is your WIFE not your mother or a dog and as such deserves your RESPECT! You expect it don't you?Well who died and made you GOD! As for asking advice on punishment well mate, if i were her and found out about you putting something like this on the net, or anywhere else, let alone having the hide to think in this manner, i would certainly buy a cattle prod and teach you a thing or two about punishment. You should get down on your knees and thank whomsoever you believe in that you have such a fine, decent ,beautiful partner and treat her with the respect and be grateful for every day you have her! You don't even know how lucky you are you moron. Wake up and smell the roses!
2007-02-22 05:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by jacqui w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if your wife really wanted kids? I advice the two of you to talk this matter out. There are some parents out there dying to have kids and doing everything they can just to have kids OF THEIR OWN. Whilst I don't get them parents or married couples who don`t like to bear kids, even FOR NOW. Children are the best gifts for married couples and I think the two of you are taking these for granted. What if something happens and she wont be fertile anymore. Think about it. Family is a precious thing, it comes when it comes, no need to stop it or delay it. and your wife is a HUMAN, fer Pete's sake, learn to respect her and not "train" her and teach her things she maybe doesn't even want to do.
2007-02-22 05:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by queenbee_tch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she's the only one having sex, it's the responsibilty of BOTH of you. But with all of the health risks of birth control pills, why not just use a condom? There are other forms of birth control. And as far as "punishing" your wife......I think having someone like you as a husband is punishment enough.
2007-02-22 05:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy, you should stop having sex with her till you grow up. You are acting like a child, so you dont need sex till you act like a man. Punish your wife, you need to be punished for even asking this question, so go sit in the cornor with your back to the wall for say 12 months. Grow up and you buy some protection, and you take some responsibilty. Or you can ask her every morning honey dont for get your pill or asked her at night, you remember yourself.
2007-02-22 05:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wanted you to *** in her really badly along with the thought of wouldn't it be nice to be pregnant.
Don't forget your wife (which I feel sorry for) is still a women & may have many thoughts like which I have mentioned above for whatever reason, even if she has stated the complete opposite.
As for punishing her, she is not a fricken child. Growup & tell her nicely & sincerely about why it freaked you out. Just tell her completely honestly about how you felt. You maybe surprised, you wife may want to sleep with you more often, maybe if you were just a little nicer.
If my bf wasn't such a miserable prick he'd get laid more & for what just talking or speaking to me nicely, what a deal for him, but most often then not he sticks to what he knows & thats being miserable & guess what no ones getting anything here!!!!!
Please just be nice to her!!!! Shes human just like you, even if you are perfect!!!
Train her! Wow! Its all in the way you speak to her & the way in which you chose to handle this situation.
Out of curiousity, how long have you two been together?
Married? For a long while, I hope!
Good luck,
Nicole
2007-02-22 05:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all more than likely it sounds being married to you is punishment enough. Second is no birth control is full proof. I have a friend that was concieved while his mom was on the pill.
2007-02-22 05:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to sweat over that, majority forget. Remember those pills are just for precaution not guarantee. My friend religiously took them and she got pregnant while taking them.
Your wife just forgot 4 one day. If you regard it so serious that you want to punish her why don't you share that duty... from now on you tell her to take her birth control and she just takes them. Lets see how many days she will miss because you forgot to tell her to take them. How about that......fair enough....
2007-02-22 07:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your taking the love out of the relationship if you to to train and punish. She has to want to do it. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 05:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋