I fell in love with this man 10 years ago even knowing that he is married. We had many sweet memories together and without his consent I had his child who is now 7, recently he told me that he need to end the relationship as he feel guilty with his act...and he had converted to Christainity. We can only remain as good friend.Now I am looking after my son alone, as he unble to give us anything. He said he has sins againts God and me....and ask for my forgiveness...shall I believe in him ? I still love him very much. What should I do ?? I am very depressed and sometime feel like taking my own life but when I look at my beautiful son I told myself I have to carry on with my life...please help me.
2007-02-21 20:42:59 · 8 answers · asked by Purple-lavender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need to take care of your child, and not focus on this man, as he is not willing to give u what u need. i would however ask for child support from him, u will be depressed for awhile, why kill yourself over him, and leave your son, fine time for him to feel guilt about the relationship. i would distance myself from him, as every time u do see him u will feel pain. it will take u a long time to forgive what he has done to u, but i would seek therapy. we have choices in our lives, if we take one road this happens, if we take another another set of circumstances happened. u made the wrong choice here to put any trust into a married man. but that is the past, u do have a choice for your future now, u have to live to raise the boy. get your child support, he is certainly responsible for that, and move on we always seem to have a future no matter how bad it looks at the time.
2007-02-21 21:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be implusive!! Seek counselling for your son. He is "slashing" and that is a definite sign of inward frustration. He slashes to let the anger out!! He needs help and it has absolutely nothing to do with your "partner". I would suspect that he is still dealing with the death of his father. Even though he was only 4 I do know what I am talking about. As I lost my son, Stephen when he was 25 - he left behind two beautiful daughters 3 & 41/2 when he passed. My youngest who is now 23 never suffered the loss, but my oldest did. She went through the same thing your son is experiencing. Check for other things like drugs and/or booze. These addictions can go undetected by you. You need to sit down and have a really GOOD talk to your son. Do NOT end your relationship. What will U do in 5 or 10-years with your little one, and the older son is out on his own. You will be ALONE!! and once again in the same situation you are in now. A child from a previous relationship and an other man (if your lucky). Remember it takes more than a MAN to raise another man's child, and U obviously have one in your partner. The one mistake I can tell U you are making, is not letting his step-dad discipline him... you should have... a man knows the workings of a teenage boy! better than U do. Set up some councelling with ALL of U... including your mate.... he is the "other half" of you and remind your son of that fact. Do not and I repeat DO NOT feed into his hatred!!There are many degress of LOVE, hang on to your partner... and show your motherly love to your son.. be firm,and stick to your guns. Now make that appointment before it is too late for you and your son.
2016-05-23 22:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a so called Christian man then How could he walk away from a child he produced seems thats pretty much a sin, seems the christian thing maybe an easy execuse to get out of being a father, and an execuse to end the relationship so you wouldn't want to confront the wife, for you its time to go get child support and maybe if he gets life together your son can eventually be a part of his.... but for you its time for you to move on and get your life together for your son who needs you.... and if you seek a relationship in the future stay away from the married guys...
2007-02-21 21:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think deep in your heart you always knew this day would come. He is no good for stringing you along for 10 years, and you would've known better not to be the other woman. Don't get mixed up with a married man / woman. You are always the loosing part. You must carry on with your life and seek some-one that is worthy of you and your child. And not a married one again..
It is hard to let him go, but he was not yours in the first place. Make a better life for you and your son, you owe it to your boy...
2007-02-21 20:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Blacksabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say that for your sons sake you need to get on with life and he needs to pay child support regarless of what it does to his other family it is not fair to you or your son . but you really need to let him go and find a man who loves you and your son and can give you what this other guy cant and that is a commitment.
2007-02-21 20:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts will see that he helps support his son. Tell him all Christian Fathers pay support for their children. who does he think he is, dont let him get away without helping you, he will think you are a dummy if you do. show him your stuff, good luck and i hope you find a nice guy,
2007-02-21 20:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will give you another child and go far for a 10 years
2007-02-21 20:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is called CHILD SUPPORT !!!!! no-one is worth hurting yourself !!! your son is your rock!!! don't break your sons heart because yours is hurting at the moment!!!!!! my little saying is " THE WORLD IS A BED OF ROSES, WATCH OUT FOR PRICKS ON THE WAY"!!!!!! he did it to his wife, youself & now he is coming back for seconds ???? very christian like??? LOSE THE LOSER!!
2007-02-21 21:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋