Im good looking and smart,yet I am very insecure in our relationship....and he is very secure...no girls like him or hit on him..lotsa guys likeme and hit onme..why amI so insecure? I hate it..how can I fix it? help!?!?
2007-02-21 19:07:40 · 5 answers · asked by Red_lipstick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your human! Its natural at one point or another. I used to feel the same way in the beginning of my eight year relationship. Now if he decides to cheat for any reason, I hope that now not being insecure will be easier for me to let him go in the end. If it ever happens.
The only way most likely is to outgrow it or maybe out think it.
What I mean by outgrow it, is just the same as outgrowing a pair of pants!
As for out think it, just say to yourself many times a day for a long period of time, that yes you are smart & yes you are pretty, & Yes to everything else you tell yourself. Maybe this will eventually turn from a bunch of saying or thoughts into actual feelings. Maybe instead of saying one of those sayings, one day I hope, you will actually feel & not just think one of those sayings!
Good luck,
Nicole
2007-02-21 20:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by littlevada32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did not receive the kind of love you needed at home.I bet both parents work and did not spend that much time with you.It all started when you were a little girl.yourself-esteem was low growing up in your house so that means you are going to build your own self-esteem and you can do it .First thing to work on is knowing that you are just as good as everyone else around you.Everyone puts there pants on the same way you do and no one is better then you they might think they are but that is there problem. I don't no if I help in any way but I hope at least you understand what I'm saying. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-21 19:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who are insecure in their relationships have probably been hurt in past relationships and its hard to make yourself realize that you can't live by the past. Whenever you live in the past you're cheating yourself and your new partner out of what could be a lifetime of happiness. It'll take a little while for you to be secure.
2007-02-21 19:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Security comes within and it doesnt matter how you look its how you carry yourself and feel about yourself.lol
2007-02-21 19:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need psychiatric help!
2007-02-21 19:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋