2007-02-21 18:46:52 · 9 answers · asked by ill take it straight with no ice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What an interesting question. Yes my soulmate is an alcoholic and it sucks because I cannot be with him because of it. I think he turned out that way because everyone in his family are either alcoholics or binge drinkers. I tried to stay with him but I have kids and I would never make my children grow up the way I did. My heart still aches and theres not one day I don't think of him.
2007-02-21 19:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your soul mate or any individual in a relationship doesn't come into that relationship a perfect person. Each person has their individual issues and is in the process of working towards becoming their true selves by overcoming obstacles and managing stresses. Alcoholism is a way people manage these stresses without confronting the real issues within themselves. Anyone with an debilitating, self-inflicted illness is not ready to be a relationship and can never truly be a soul mate until they become a whole person who can deal with their live adaptively.
There are many reasons people can come and go out your life. Some are meant to be there and others are not. Only time will tell. I suggest you not rush into a "relationship" with this person. It will only end bad. You can be a friend and act as a support to them as they learn how to overcome their illness..meanwhile getting to know them better and building a strong foundation for a future possibility of a relationship where you can grow as soul mates.
2007-02-22 03:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot imagine that any ones soul mate is a raging alcoholic. There are many reasons that people become alcoholics. A 12-Step Program can give you a lot of insights.
2007-02-22 02:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf was a raging alcoholic b/c he was a cop and all he did was drink from am-pm until he took alcoholic seizures and still wont stop drinking he drank way before I meet him. I broke up with him and intend to stay away b/c I tried to help him and he started getting violent with me.lol
2007-02-22 02:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics always break the heart of friends and loved ones, without exception. So if you want a life of misery stick with this dude.I know because I'm a dry alcoholic and know what pain and anguish I caused.Been sober 20 years now, no trouble now.
2007-02-22 02:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was now shes my ex alcoholic WHY? inside there afraid of life alcohol makes them forget about life
2007-02-22 02:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because their sick. And they need help. They have deep issues
they don't want to face and deal with. But, some people can't
stop even if they wanted to, cause it can be hereditary. Instead
of coming up for air and living in the sunlight...they'd rather be
slushing in the mud and slime.
2007-02-22 03:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmm, No to the first part.
But for the second part I can say those people are a little dumb
2007-02-22 02:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only an alcholic knows what is going on in his head...If he does not want to go to AA, you should go without him...or leave him?
2007-02-22 02:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋