How do u make friends?

Question

I wasnt the best person to be around for a long time...and I am ready to change. I dont have friends and...I would love to have some now...I go to work...but there arent any people my age there. I cant just go on to random people and say 'can we be friends?' no more...can I?! Im no longer a kid. Im 23

Answer 1

Go up to random people in the street and offer them money in exchange for their friendship.

Answer 2

If you want to be a "good friend" and better than ever...You MUSt really, really mean it! Not kidding!

I have known some that were extreme liars..and maybe to this day, I am not sure totally that I would honestly be able to trust them...they pulled the rug from underneath me....

you will have to work VERY diligently and very hard at getting people to care back...it isn't going to be an easy road..

You need to "be there" for people, if they ask you for help...you need to be honest, and trust worthy...loyal...that sort of stuff...

somebody who has your back..is a trust worthy friend..somebody who actually really honestly gives a damn about you! I wouldn't trust them, unless they were "There" 100% for me,and another person....ya know what I am saying? This is soooo important....you need this to be a good friend...and just keep trying to be helpful and not a two-timing lying person...nobody can appreciate those types ...nobody wants to be around or associate with those types...unfortunately, they also wear out their welcome, fast....wouldn't you rather be a person that people love forever...you, being talked about ,years later as a person that everybody loved,and cherished, and honored, because you were the type that would give up your shirt for another? Somebody that ,even when you are 85, people are still recalling what a great and wonderful friend that you have been, and years later...you can tell younger people, "I used to act like a "you -know- what" but, I changed,and it may have taken so many years for me to do so,,,but, thank God, I am no longer that person anymore...I got MORE Clout, as a friend, and a hero, than I did as a 'ne'er do good,and trust me, ya just don't want that kind of reputation! as it kind of follows you!"

Hey, just think on that...and keep working on being a friend that can keep secrets..and "knows when to hold them,and when to share them" as well as being kind, considerate...etc...
People still look for this, when they look for a great friend...I know that I certainly do...I really do! You gotta show where your heart and your soul is....and be the really great friend that you have the great potential to be....that is what men and women really want from anybody!!! People are sooo dead tired of being coerced and lied to....okay?

I really wish you the best of luck...I hope that you find a great group of friends..and that you are honored and or very much admired in your years to come!

Answer 3

Get involved in some sport , language , dancing or any kind of classes group(check is there people of ur age).So ,there u have to interact with others ,be nice ,gentle ,smile ,get a good image of urself.After some lessons ,maybe 2 or 3 ,u have to give the first step,talk with others ,make conversation ,something as "hard day eeh?,: ) my name is...".Well ,u have to konw that in the world ,theres social and no social people ,so if the other person is cold ,maybe is not ur fall so ,dont get disappointed and try ,try ,try.U can practice too with the people in the street asking them the time,so u can fell more and more relaxed, dont be shy.

Answer 4

I can relate to what you saying. Im trying to do the same thing. The best way to make friends is to do things that you enjoy and you will meet people with similar interests that you can talk to and become friends with. Lately ive tryed to become alot more friendly with people.. act a little more excited to talk to them... it really helps to show interest in the other people... Try not to be so quiet and reserved try to be more talkative that usually gets people talking and opens up the possiability of friendship. Im not the best at making friends but im trying to work on it... good luck

Answer 5

First you need to remember that you cant have a lot of friends. You can have acquaintances but your friends will always be few and far between. Start of by being polite first. Employ all the etiquette's that your mom had ever taught you. Slowly and gradually as you see people warming up to you, start talking to them about things they like. People love to talk about themselves. Ask them what they like, ask them about their lives, don't get to personal. Always have a light conversation, people don't like to hang around those who are depressed or sulking. Have a good sense of humor, its very important to be cheerful when you meet people they would want to come and meet you again. Slowly evolve you don't want people to start staring at you like you are high or something. But first start with just being noticed about how helpful, polite, charming, etc. you are. Then as times passes the friends will filter down to you from your acquaintances. Good Luck

Answer 6

OK----don't make age an issue----older---younger---they all make good friend if you let them-------in order to HAVE a friend you have to BE a friend-----this principle doesn't change.You can never have too many friends---start by being friendly and open----be honest----be yourself but at the same time learn to be a people person----if you know someone with an unusual financial need come to their aid if you cant ------------and tell them it is not a loan----you just want to help--------give of your time-----if a person is hurting be there for them----provide comfort---always try to find only positive things to say about someone--------there are people who excel at just one tiny thing and go completely un-noticed----if you can see a special talent a person has and tell them so---it can change their life for the better----you might be the only person who bothers to give them the acknowledgment they so desperately need......reach out to men and women alike-----make a difference-----I have done this for awhile and believe me----it does came back to you.---------give of your talents------your time---and your heart---and you will be wealthy in friends-------don't let them abuse you but we all need a friend----reach out---------we can change things---one life at a time.one simple word or act of kindness

Answer 7

listen dear.
your age is a nice age which you can make much friends in this age.
the first thing for making friend is wiilingness that you have strongly.
then you should not hurry bacause having no friend is better than having bad friend!
in everyone life's there are so many opportunities for everything like making friends.
it depends on where are you living and what kind of person are you.
i'm sure you will have friends later. soooooooo many

Answer 8

get off of the computer. go to a busy bar. buy a drink. don't try too hard. don't try at all. don't expect results this first night. repeat. repeat. you are welcome quincy

p.s. don't listen to people who tell you to buy a book- that is a solitary action. don't listen to people who tell you to be selective about your friends, give everyone a chance, weed out the obvious "users", and being yourself(disclosing the thoughts you say to yourself) will attract the right type to yourself

Answer 9

All you can do is be nice to people. Always offer common courtesy, and be TRUE to people. Truth and honesty are the largest factors in a friend relationship. And always respect.

Answer 10

23 is not that old. in this age you can find more friends. move with people. smile with them. chat with them. help them. you can make los of friends.