Once upon a time, there was a boy named John. John's been going through a lot lately: He just got out of a year long relationship with my good friend Nikki and as a result had a falling out with his best friend. Well John's been on the road of trying to "get his life back" and along the way he picked up my best friend Angela. Flattered from the sudden attention, I think she's been dropping hints that she may be falling for him. I did some investigating and recently found out from Nikki that John's always thought she liked him for one reason or another. The problem? Nikki also informed me that he doesn't like her back at all ("he thinks it's funny" = her exact words) and may be trying to use Angela to make her and their old group of friends jealous. So while my best friend is being swept off her feet, what she doesn't know is that she's really about to be dropped flat on her behind.
2007-02-21 17:36:29 · 9 answers · asked by stuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really want to tell her what's really going on, but I honestly don't know how or where I'd being to explain because in addition to all that ^^, there's so much about John she DOESN'T know and even if I did try to explain, I'm afraid she'll get defensive and we may end up having a falling out of our own. I don't want her to get hurt, but I don't know how to save her. Should I just suck up and confront her anyway? Confront John? How? What's the best way to go about doing such and minimizing the chance of either of them getting angry and starting more drama? Or should I just let things unravel and take a chance with my best friend's heart? Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please Please help :/
2007-02-21 17:39:21 · update #1
Look out for your friend, even if it hurts your relationship now, she will respect you for your input. Although John could like her. He may not want to tell his ex girlfriend that he likes another girl, thats a sensitive topic.
Talk to John, it sounds like you may be close to him. Find it out directly from him. Also, if they just broke up recently, then tell your friend to hold off for a bit. No one wants to be a rebound......
2007-02-21 17:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do would be to advise Angela to find Johns feelings towards her before she goes and makes any rash decisions. she may/may not know that he doesnt feel the same way. either way, if they are both concenting adults, theres not much you can do except give a bit of advice but most importantly, be there for you friends who need you. dont get caught up in the tandle of untruths, because if you do, sooner or later someone will start taking sides and you may lose someone you care about. just be a good friend and hope for the best. good luck, hope it gets sorted out with no broken hearts.
2007-02-21 17:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by kaoss x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are truly her friend tell her the truth. Spare her the heart ache and embarrassment. When you do tell her, be kind and sensitive. Maybe you could take her out for a lunch or a movie and break the news to her gently. Expose the yuk in her life before she falls too deeply in love with him. Make sure you let her know how valuable she is to you as a friend and how much you think of her. This will help on her self esteem.
2007-02-21 17:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask John first what he thinks of Angela. If he seems lukewarm at all, tell him what his ex said. He may or may not have said this. He may or may not have meant it. It's better for you to talk to him first. If he affirms this "heresay" then you should tell Angela. Let her believe what she will; let him say what he might; let them be angry at you if they want to. You'll be acting as a concerned friend. If they tell you not to bother, then don't at this time. Above all, if you want to be there for Angela in the future, let her know that you care, that you will help her.
The very fact that you care proves that you are a good friend. But it's not fair for you to have handle this stress that you are under.
It won't be easy, but I suggest you speak to them. Separately.
Good luck. Here's hoping whatever you do works to alleviate some of your worry.
2007-02-21 18:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by I vote Capt. America 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe Nikki doesn't know his true feelings and perhaps John told her that to get her off his case.
Personally I wouldn't worry about it.
Unfortunately people get there hearts broken everyday.....
One of lifes wonderful lessons
2007-02-21 17:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by bm8211520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to steer clear of giving any advice or information to any of these people. Let time and nature take their courses.
2007-02-21 17:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really YOUR FRIEND; you really don't have a choice in the matter you are bound by honesty and loyality to tell her everything. We have to protect the ones we love even if it hurts us to do so.
2007-02-21 17:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friends shouldnt go out with another friends ex....if she a good friend then she wouldnt want to ruin your friendship.....thats up to her.......it happened to me...but with my friends ex....it was awkward
2007-02-21 17:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it sweet but say it
2007-02-21 17:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋