I am a married bisexual female. 6 months ago I started corresponding with an ex-girlfriend. Over time we have become really close friends again (platonic). She is taking a break from her relationship with her girlfriend but they are trying to work out their issues. My husband has no desire to get to know her and thinks I should end the friendship. On what level should I be able to correspond with this woman or should I continue the friendship at all? I am totally in love with my husband but we completely disagree on this issue. We have been together 11 years. We are looking for both male and female opinions on this issue.
2007-02-21 17:14:06 · 19 answers · asked by ARR30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband should always come first, you made that commitment to him when you married him. If it hurts him, don;t do it.
2007-02-21 17:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would you want your husband being friends with his ex-girlfriend? I think it's a bad idea to have a friendship with exes when your married or in a committed relationship. It can cause a lot of problems and could put you in a bad situation. Anyone you have had sex with before or romantic feelings for in the past is someone you shouldn't be hanging out with. Old feelings could ignite in either person and it could lead to being unfaithful. It's not worth it.
2007-02-21 18:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow a tough one here. I am married (16yrs) male. Wife has "friend" from high school days. She has lived with us from time to time. We have even helped her raise her kids. ( the dads a long gone loser). There has been some "play" between us all at some time over the years. We are best of friends, allways will be , but jealosy still raises its ugly head. I feel better when the wife reminds me that we are Man and Wife above all else! Maybe He will feel more comfortable with her around if you reassure him that he is #1 with you. We men are dogs and like to get patted on the head from time to time !!
2007-02-21 17:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by arizonapolecat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about this also...
Not being friends with her will avoid so much drama in your relationship with your husband. Is that friendship worth the drama?
I think you know you would have a problem if he started talking to an ex-girlfriend, platonic or not. It would cause problems.
Move on, enjoy life with your husband!
2007-02-21 17:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by MissDivine 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe I would be O.K. with my Wife being bisexual but I'm not too sure I would want her to take it past a physical level. It would concern me if she started developing feelings for a female lover. It would make me feel insecure I think. I am sure that is how your husband feels.
2007-02-21 21:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may intent problems, i'm coping with the equal hindrance. I still see my ex who's now married, and her man is solely relatively intimidated. Despite the fact that, you may love your husband you could effortlessly fall astray to your ex if there's nonetheless an attraction, which i am sure there is. Be sincere with yourself, her man has each proper to suppose that approach considering that we nonetheless sleep together every chance we get, and she or he runs to me for everything. My advice, you may want to back up slightly from her and appreciate your man and his feelings.
2016-08-10 16:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i have been married for 15 years to my husband, i feel that you should listen to your hubby's advice.
Would you have continued the friendship with this girlfriend, what would it lead to?
Think about it.
2007-02-21 17:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right. You should end the relationship altogether because the temptation will always be there if you remain friends and if you ever give in to that temptation you will be committing adutery and cheating on your marriage, breaking the marriage vows. IF you are as in love with your husband as you say you are then you will comply with his wishes.
2007-02-22 06:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you both are looking for opinions, here's mine.
1. You're married. Even though bed room play would be with a female, its still cheating.
2. If your hubby says its okay.. then hey. Have fun!
3. Make it a 3 some. It could even be where your hubby only touches you and your girl friend only touches you. What do you think? Its a win win for you. You experience pleasure from both.
2007-02-21 17:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Anytime you get married it is not a good idea to have a relationship with any Ex male or female unless you have to for kid sake. Would you want your husband to have a relationship with he Ex's
2007-02-21 17:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rock Star Outlaw 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is an ex-girlfriend, not a longtime friend. There is no reason why you should put your relationship with your husband in jeopardy for a potential friendship with this woman. Tell her goodbye.
2007-02-21 17:18:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋