Was I rude?

Question

I was at a cofee shop and a girl asked if she could use my cell phone to send a "really important" text message to a friend. I thought about it and decided it was not a good idea, as now she would be able to get my phone number from her friend, so I said no.
She got upset and said that I was rude and inconsiderate and that I "would be kind of hot" if i were a nicer person.
My reply was "And you'd be a lot cuter if you had your own damn phone!"
Was this rude? My girlfriend thinks it was a little rude, but my buddies think it's funny. What do you think?

Answer 1

I myself am a bit conservative with borrowing my cell phone to people - (unless it is an obvious emergency). Her comment was in bad taste. A true lady would have accepted your decision gracefully and thanked you nontheless. Under the circumstances, I understand why you retaliated to her comment, although it would have been better to just ignore her. Now, on the hand, I think your comment was pretty funny! She asked for it - if you want to put yourself out as a toffee, you must be prepared to be chewed!

Answer 2

You were right in not letting her use it because you had no way of knowing if her 'message' was really genuine, or, as you say, she had other reasons. I don't think you were rude because you had to respond to her accusations which weren't fair... Maybe you wouldn't have gotten into this situation if you'd just told her some story for an excuse.. like you didn't have balance, or your phone didn't have any charge or something.

Answer 3

I think the woman should have accepted your first reply. No means no. As for your rebuttal? Yes it was rude, but it wasn't offencive. Just a lack of proper manners. Retaliations work best with soft answers.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I think your reply might have been a little curt (but funny, I admit), but I find the phrase 'really important text message' to be an oxymoron. I don't blame you for not letting her do it, and she was rude for going off on you.

Answer 6

Not rude at all. I would never ask to use someones phone unless it was a real emergency. I think that was her cute, coy way of getting your number.

Answer 7

Not sure, she could have been sincerely needing your phone. But she got rude first. You were just retaliating with an equally rude remark.

Answer 8

I am just jealous that I can't think of a good put down like that. She was being rude and you only responded in kind.

Answer 9

I believe that this stranger was being very aggressive. You are being assertive in saying that you do not want to share your phone.

Her remark was aggressive. Your response was very funny.

I think that many people need to learn how to be more respectful of boundaries, more assertive, and more humorous.

In this case I'd say you handled the situation perfectly.

Answer 10

Meh its a so\so kind of thing. I think it was rude of her to even comment back after you said no. She insulted you for not letting her use something that YOU OWN, not something that is hers. That was a bit rude what you said after she insulted you.