Your boyfriend/partner/spouse decides he wants female friends who are about ten years younger then him, attractive, and intersting. He wants to keep these friendships hidden from you and continues to instigate the friendships (by asking these girls to meet him for coffee, or goes to their apartment to hang out) what do you do? Do you think its okay for him to behave this way because he is just making friends or do you get upset because its being hidden from you? Oppinions please.
2007-02-21 16:56:36 · 6 answers · asked by jennyve25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont think i have to tell you that these are not friends. either he is screwing them, or wants to very badly. your relationship is done. you need to improve your self esteem and take cues from your intuition. the fact that you asked this question tells me that you already know in yor heart that hes a sleezy guy. go get you a new life without him.
2007-02-21 17:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not right at all. Trust is the pillar of a solid relationship and as soon as that is gone, the relationship will begin to crumble. You can't trust him, because he is hiding this from you. How can you trust his relationships with these other women, hes already lied to you?
Trust your instincts, they are almost always right, especially when you don't want them to be. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, what is it? Don;t be blinded by what you think is love, open your eyes to the facts. Tell him to make a decision and let him know that the other relationship is costing you, your relationship. Make him make a decision on which relationship is more important to him, and then make sure he doesn;t continue to do it behind your back.
2007-02-21 17:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm....get upset
please get upset
dont be as in the words of Daisy Buchanan, "a perfect little fool" and ignore the signs
dont accuse right away either
but talk to him
i personally dont believe its okay what he is doing
ESPECIALLY if it is a spouse
2007-02-21 17:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by metalxgrnstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends,A.K.A. ( hookers )
Some man go through that what ever you call,,,,hmmmm.....you know......(mid-life crisis). yeah right! He is going to hurt you mentally if it continues, and you don't deserve it. I know it's hard to leave him, but you take care of YOU, and have a bettert life with a man that respects you. Come on sweetie, these friends are bad for your relationship, if you know what I mean.
2007-02-21 17:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they are more than just "friends". I would examine his head and ask him wtf he is doing with girls 10 years younger than him and if there is nothing wrong with it then why does it need to be hidden. Id be really mad. Its one thing if he has female friends that he works with or are friends girlfriends or your friends but to actually go hang out with them by himself and to want to meet young woman sounds kinda funny to me.
2007-02-21 17:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee! He's not hiding these from you for no reason.
2007-02-21 17:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋