Help me please, someone out there!
I have been struggling with this issue for several long weeks now and have decided that maybe, just maybe it is time to see the light The main problem is that I feel that my pride is getting in the way of the TRUTH. I know that the Christians can help me with my problem. If I tell my friends that God is calling me than I am afraid that they will laugh or disown me. Not all of them but a lot of them. I don't have a lot of friends to begin with as I am a loner.
What are your suggestions? Should I just be honest with them and mostly to myself? Or should I just walk away from them and seek out new Christian friends? Is it that simple?
Will I feel it immediately or will I need to have it soak in so to speak? Where do I go first to start to learn His word?
I am shaking and trembling as I type this. I just poured all of my alcohol down the drain and I had some marijuana that I crumbled up and flushed down the toilet. Am I being too hasty or what?
Help!
2007-02-21 16:51:52 · 17 answers · asked by Brad 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
So far new friends your words are very encouraging. I hop I did the right thing. Non believers will probably be shocked when I tell you I crumbled up about 3 oz. of marijuana. I don't even want to call it the 3 letter word anymore because I feel like I am sinning. Not to mention about 15 bottles of expensive beer.
2007-02-21 17:24:23 · update #1
You flushed your weed? Sounds like one con is that it's going to be expensive.
2007-02-21 16:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew O 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are serious about re-aligning your whole way of thinking about the world by way of religion it should be a choice made on your own, without undue pressure or influence from others. That's one of the main reasons religion has so many downfalls, because nobody is ever given that choice to make of their own free will. A majority of believers grew up surrounded by other believers and were thus denied that choice. I'm not advocating anything other than believing in yourself and doing what you think is right. You only live once and its very possible to live life as an individual with your own "morals", while still being able to respect the rights of others without using religion as a guideline to proper thinking. Common sense usually prevails in every situation, so just use your head and I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
2007-02-21 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Yakemchuk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have been thinking this over, and made the decision to make those changes in your life shows that you have definately been called to be a Christian. Being a new Christian is always hard especially if your friends and/or family do not support your choice. However the best way to learn more is to find a Bible-based church (getting and reading the bible is actually the first step), read the book of Titus to see what a bible-based and godly church involves and what you should look for in its leaders... that will help you decide the right church. When you find a church speak to people after the service you will find that most people are pretty friendly, and can maybe help you find a bible-study that will suit you... bible-studies are always a great way to learn as you can ask questions (and never be afraid to do this... people are probably thinking them anyway), and don't be intimidated by Christians who know more, ask them to clarify if you don't understand. Remember you are now a child of Christ and therefore have a HUGE amount of brothers and Sisters who are praying for you (I will be)... you are never alone and will make new friends (it may take time like any friendships do), but if your friends continue to not support your choice then you may have to wean yourself off them, don't diss them coz you are now an example to them and they need to see the changes that Jesus has made in your life... but obviously don't put yourself in situations where you may be tempted to go back to your old ways... if you need to talk then email me through my profile page and I'll gladly pray for ya or just talk/listen. Good Luck
2007-02-21 19:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Don't be a follower, be a leader. If your heart is leading you to Christianity and you believe that Jesus Christ is the truth then you need to follow that. Pray and ask for guidance. If your friends do not support you or belittle you for your choices, they are not friends. You are better off without them. You say you are a loner that does not have a lot of friends, it is better to have one true friend you can trust than an abundance of superficial friends that are only there for what you can do for them. Be honest with yourself and don't worry about what others think. You may even get resistance from family members but you have to be true to your beliefs.
Try different Christian churches in your area to find the right fit. Learn what their mission statement is and what they believe. Try and get involved with a church that has a younger, growing congregation. You don't indicate how old you are but you need to be surrounded with a positive support group and if they are in your age group it will be even more beneficial for you. Try and get involved with bible studies, it will be the best way to learn. They are usually small groups that are easier to talk and learn in.
I hope you find your peace in yourself and in your beliefs. May God Bless You and Keep You Safe.
2007-02-21 17:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are asking a fundamental question. What is it that you want? For God is eternal, A Spirit. Holy, and by definition, Good.
If you choose to follow Jesus as you suggest, then you will have chosen to be different from your current group of friends and may be estranged from them due to the behavior shift that you have chosen to perform. The only place to go to learn of God is to read His Word. Let God work in and through you and resist the traditions of man and the wiles of Satan. If you fear losing your friends in your current group then consider why they will abandon you because you are seeking freedom over vice. There is no short answer to eternity nor the path of enlightenment. Be brave and know that there are millions of others that are with you.
2007-02-21 17:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are looking for answers you can reach a spiritual level w/o succumbing to Christianity. We dont all have to be sheep. Why would you pour out your alcohol? Even Jesus believed in having a drink. Dont get me wrong I think Jesus was a fabulous human and had an important message. The problem is, modern day Christians are so far removed from what Jesus was trying to teach. Think about it.
2007-02-21 17:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed75 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No your not! That is the first step and it shows god is working in you. Maybe your friends will accept this? and if they don't well there not great friends in the first place. and when you become a christian you'll have the best friend ever-God! If you start going to church, you'll make heaps of friends-i did! I wouldn't walk away from them, your conversion might help them make this decision too. Hope you work everything out!
2007-02-21 17:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been a Christian my whole life and there are many things that I am promised and one is knowing that I have "Eternal Life" in Christ Jesus. One thing I have learned is friends come and go, but what a friend we have in Jesus. I promise once you turn your eyes to him you will never be alone! Now has a Christian I have failed and turned to drugs and drinking. The worst thing to feel is conviction, but he has also promised all his children to ask for forgiveness and he will make your sins as white as snow. I pray you continue to follow christianity!
2007-02-21 17:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by LisaMarie R 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are feeling pulled, that is called the Holy Ghost, and he is working on you. God works on you, convicting you, making you come to him. When he does this, you need to come, THEN... You can not be positive you will ever get a chance to come again.
When you are a true christian, people dont want to be your friend. Some will of course, if they understand, but most drinking buddies dont want to be around people they feel are condeming them, even if that isnt what your doing. You will make new friends, good ones, who wont let you down!
Church is where you need to go to learn the bible. You need a good preacher over you. Someone who can show you what you need to do now. Once your saved, you need to be baptised. You need to join a church. I have been to many types of churches, of course you want a church that is going to 100 percent read the bible, and not take, or add anything to it. This type of church generally is a baptist church, although I am sure you can find a few community churches that agree with me. Remember, when searching for a church, MAKE SURE THEY CAN BACK UP WHAT THEY BELIEVE BY THE BIBLE. If they teach something you are unsure of, you ask someone elses opinion, and read, read, read. God will show you if you want to know !
Good luck, and please, let me know how it turns out, good for you!
2007-02-21 16:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
"Where do I go first to start to learn His word?"
Church. As far as your friends go, if they can't accept you for who are then they aren't very good friends now are they? Even if they do heckle you, you need to decide what is more important to you. Them, or God? God never said being a christian is easy. If you are really struggling with this my friend, you don't need to be asking people in Yahoo. Especially considering some of the people who will come in here an tell you God doesn't exist and try to bring you down etc. If you really want help in this, don't be on Yahoo. Talk to God himself. He'll tell you everything you need to know. Turn your computer off and pray to him. Good luck friend.
2007-02-21 16:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Frank P 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If you're friends are mature, they wont care if you believe in God or not, you dont have to tell them anything though either. Or just dont go into detail about how you're a bible thumping boy. haha, alcohol wasted.... you SOB!! what are you thinking... if anyone says it's a sin to have some drinks, that's ridiculous, part of the reason why, I believe in God, but hate the church, the bible, and the people who try to interpret it to meet their standards....
2007-02-21 16:58:31 · answer #11 · answered by Wsdm 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋